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Author Topic: Fellatio/transmission  (Read 3409 times)

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Offline cholny29

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« on: January 15, 2007, 09:27:50 PM »
I am hetero female who gave hetero male fellatio maybe 2-3 min no ejaculation the end of June.Never thought anything about HIV/STD until 5 wk later and I noticed a peasize knot in cervical node.went to the doc that day and he did a cbc (my temp was 100.9 but i didnt feel bad)to check for mono everything was fine and he gave me keflexin/cephalosporin to make the knot go away. It didn't go away so I went to another doc the next week and he gave me amoxicllin and i basically told him i feared I had HIV and he told me he was sure I didn't that it was hard to get in the first place much less thru oral sex.at about wk 7 i got these terrible headaches the pain felt like it was right behind the eye socket and then my neck was really tense so i tried to rotate it and pop it but it only got more stiff. then i got mucus/phlegm stuck in my throat for about 2.5 weeks after the neck ordeal it wouldnt come up to my nose i just constantly swallowed it. at wk 9 i finally went to the doc about the mucus he said i had a bacterial inf and gave me zithromax. about a wk later i got a rash on my inner thigh it look a lot like a hickey because it was flat and had tiny purple dots everywhere. it went away in about 4 days. i have had nite sweats for about a 2 yr now so i didnt think anything about that.i have had an increase in joint pain in my legs during this time too at present moment. i still have the constant headaches where i can feel the pulse in my head throbbing. at 6 and 7 wk i had a oraquick which was negative, at 8wk i had an eia which was negative, at 10 another - oraquick, wk 13 -eia,wk 15 -oraquick, and at wk 17 -eia. tested nat at 5 mo, neg and then eia at 6 mo? am i hiv free? What freaks me out is the fever of 100.9 when I didn'teven feel bad. No fever usually equates to no ars but what about fever on day 34? I still have what the gp said was a swollen cervical lymph node my ent said is was more than likely a sebaceous cyst rather than node.  to my knowledge the person i gave to was not gay/bi, is not an iv drug user, I don't know if that info is useful or not. and I try to believe my test then i read about queen akasha taking 5 yrs to test positive? does that happen with modern testing? how rare would that be? i know i shouldn't rely on symptoms but these are reallly convincing ones not anxiety driven ones. what are the chances or is it just my mind? i thank you all for reading this and thank you all for all the good help and work you all do. God Bless You All! any and all advice is greatly appreciated.

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Re: Fellatio/transmission
« Reply #1 on: January 15, 2007, 09:43:10 PM »
I read all the way through your post, but the truth is that your HIV question was answered in your very first sentence. You've had repeated negative results after what really was a no risk incident.  You are HIV negative. 

Big, fat smiley face for that:   ;D

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Offline cholny29

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Re: Fellatio/transmission
« Reply #2 on: January 15, 2007, 10:19:20 PM »
thank you for your quick reply thunter34. I would agree with you and say it was a no risk incident but I am sure there was pre-cum there most always is. Also I bite my cheeks out of nervousness so I know I probably had minor mouth cuts/sores. And my wisdom teeth since they have been coming in have scratched up a place in the back of my mouth as well. I do know though that nothing was bleeding in my mouth or I wouldve tasted blood or noticed it.....the cuts I have are not near that severe. Thank you again for your quick reply. God Bless!

Offline cholny29

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Re: Fellatio/transmission
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2007, 07:26:05 PM »
ann, andy velez, rapid rod any comments? Thanks

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Fellatio/transmission
« Reply #4 on: January 16, 2007, 07:29:23 PM »
The only comment for you is see a mental health professional to see why you can't deal with your negative results. You are NEGATIVE.  End of Story..

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Re: Fellatio/transmission
« Reply #5 on: January 16, 2007, 08:52:20 PM »
From what you described of the incident -- oral without ejaculation, it's no surprise that you tested negative. I wouldn't have even considered testing to be necessary. Then you tested negative multiple times which only affirmed that you are HIV negative. Period. End of story.

So it's just your mind working overtime on this to no good purpose. You ARE HIV negative.

There's nothing to discuss. If you are having symptoms which are troubling you then discuss them with your doctor(s). It has nothing to do with HIV. End of story. Really.
Andy Velez

Offline cholny29

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Re: Fellatio/transmission
« Reply #6 on: January 17, 2007, 03:28:16 PM »
Andy Velez, RapidRod, and thunter34 thank you all very much for your prompt replies. I am trying to figure out a path at the current moment to travel down to cure my mental worries concerning this unfortunate event.  If I may borrow a small moment of your time and ask another question?  Is there enough of the HIV virus in pre-ejaculate fluid to infect an individual on a one time exposure?  Have you ever heard of this happening before and it being reliable?  Lastly with modern testing has there been any proven cases of individuals testing positive after the three month mark that the CDC goes by? I appreciate your answers and the time you took to read my questions.  I promise I will not keep posting insignificant, unrealistic questions to drag this post out even further. I am merely trying to seek peace and comfort. God Bless!

Offline cholny29

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Re: Fellatio/transmission
« Reply #7 on: May 20, 2007, 10:57:14 PM »
I know this has been discussed numerous times before regarding oral sex and the HIV risk. If someone performs oral for a couple of minutes and the person does not ejaculate in their mouth, but pre-ejaculate was present and the giver of oral bites the inside of their cheeks all the time, how high is the risk? I guess I am asking how bad does the oral health have to be? I have also read that someone posted on here recently and said they tested out to a year negative and then it turned positive and then someone had posted on the body recently the same thing. do you all really believe someone can test out to a year with no other exposures and test positive with the sensitivity of todays test? Does HIV hide somewhere to not make someone test positive until a year? I hate to ask so many questions, I am so worried and am looking for advice from you professionals. Thanks!

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Re: Fellatio/transmission
« Reply #8 on: May 20, 2007, 11:35:21 PM »
The mouth is a hostile environment to viruses such as HIV. The scenario you describe (pre-cum and bitten cheeks) is not one where HIV would be transmitted.

I have also read that someone posted on here recently and said they tested out to a year negative and then it turned positive and then someone had posted on the body recently the same thing. do you all really believe someone can test out to a year with no other exposures and test positive with the sensitivity of todays test? Does HIV hide somewhere to not make someone test positive until a year? I hate to ask so many questions, I am so worried and am looking for advice from you professionals. Thanks!

Yup and we call it "trawling" when you go into the poz only forums and bring back other people's stuff for discussion here. It's very uncool, instrusive and rude. Don't do it. Those cases bear no relevance to yours.

All you need to know is that the window period for HIV is 3 months. A tiny minority of people may take longer than that and if you were one of those people you'd know about it. Such people are taking immunosuppressant drugs following a transplant or on chemotherapy for cancer or in some cases long term injecting drug users.

You and I both know you're not one of those people.

The bottom line is that you don't have HIV and no amount of what-iffing is going to change that. If you'd taken the time to read our Welcome Thread you'd be aware of that.

Just as you'd be aware that you're not meant to start multiple threads or that Worried Wells who question persistently their negative results get timed out.

And speaking of time, it's time you moved on with your life. We cannot help you any further.


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Re: Fellatio/transmission
« Reply #9 on: May 21, 2007, 04:49:46 AM »

Quite often those posts are misunderstood. What the positive person is usually saying is that they tested negative at their last routine test, engaged in sexual behaviour in the meantime and then tested positive at their next routine test.

I only remember one person who claimed they didn't ever have sex in the intervening time, but I have good reason to believe they weren't being honest.

The scientific fact of the matter is the vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test postive by six weeks. The window period remains at three months to catch the RARE person who takes a little longer than six weeks to produce enough antibodies to show positive on the ELISA and WB tests.

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