Evaluate my chances

[Ronet22]

What is the probability of contracting HIV infection after protected sex with condom and washing of the genitals with soap and water.
So the story..
I had a one off sex with a lady on May 4th 2024 with condom,Oral without condom,no kissing. After ejaculation,I removed the condom carefully,there was no condom tear/bust and went to the bathroom to wash off with soap and water ( i did not wipe off with tissue before washing off). So on the 28th morning,I woke up with vomiting,diarrhea and localized abdominal pain on my lower left. Had a very mild fever the next day. I tested for HIV1/2 rapid test at 30 days post exposure and it came back negative.On 18th June 2024,the abdominal pain returned with diarrhea,lower back pain, neuropathy  on my toe and finger nails,and low grade fever. I have done multiple test since then as below:
1. Chlamydia= negative
2. Syphilis= negative
3. Hepatitis B&C = negative
4. H. Pylori = negative
5. 87 days HIV1/2 rapid test with determine/ Uni gold = negative
6. 146 days HIV1/2 rapid test with determine= negative.
Currently everyone in my house is having symptoms.
My question is:
1. I am based in West Africa where huv2 is prevalent .Is the 146 days negative test conclusive to hiv2?
2. Could sharing food ,plates,cups,spoons and eating from the same plate transmit HIV? I cut food with my teeth and give it to my little boy.
3. Is it possible that while washing off,the remnant of vaginal fluid on the pubic area can wash down to the tip of the penis and hence cause infection ( note I did not wipe off with tissue before washing off,meaning i might still have sperm at the tip)?
4. Can HIV transmit through saliva.

I'm really confused as I am still ill and my family is sick too.

[leatherman]

What is the probability of contracting HIV infection after protected sex with condom

No chances at all. HIV is transmitted through unprotected anal or vaginal sex or by sharing injection needles.

So the story..
. . .
6. 146 days HIV1/2 rapid test with determine= negative.

We didn't really need your story besides telling us that you used a condom properly and had a negative test result after 5 months.

Currently everyone in my house is having symptoms.

I'm sorry to hear that but whatever is going on with them has nothing to do with HIV

1. ...Is the 146 days negative test conclusive to hiv2?

YES

2. Could sharing food ,plates,cups,spoons and eating from the same plate transmit HIV?

NO. Once HIV is outside the body, changes in temperature and humidity kill it. HIV is NOT transmitted by food or utensils. It's not transmitted by bodily contact, kissing or even spitting.

3. Is it possible that while washing off

No.

4. Can HIV transmit through saliva.

NO
HIV is only transmitted by sharing injection needles or having unprotected anal/vaginal sex.

I'm really confused as I am still ill and my family is sick too.

You have reported a negative HIV test, so you do not have HIV. Whatever is making you and your family ill has nothing to do with you spreading HIV as you do not have HIV and HIV is only spread by unprotected sex and sharing injection needles.

You will need to speak with a doctor about the health issues you and your family members are having. I hope that you and your family can get diagnosed, treated and feel better very soon.

Have a good day,
Michael

Reducing Your HIV risks:
With no exceptions, use condoms correctly and consistently for anal or vaginal intercourse
Talk to a healthcare provider about PrEP as another layer of protection

Get tested yearly for HIV and other STIs.
If you don’t use condoms and/or PrEP, test more frequently

Some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other more easily acquired STIs. It is possible to show no signs or symptoms from an STI so testing is the only way to know.

Get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

What’s the ONLY way to know if you’ve been infected by HIV or an STI?
Get tested.


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[Ronet22]

Hello Michael.
Thanks for your response,I feel relieved. I know my hope is on my 146 negative result,hoping it will not change in 6 months time. I have read a lot of people in other sites saying hiv2 takes more than 6 months to be detected using rapid test.

I know I had a protected encounter,but while putting on the condom,I used the fingers I used to touch vaginal fluid to touch the condom while putting it on and also received unprotected oral ( No ejaculation) before I used condom for vaginal sex.

I have never experienced being this sick in my life. Symptoms still persist since after 3 weeks post exposure.
Hopefully I will be going for a 6 month test at the end of October.

[Jim Allen]

Asked and answered already.

What you posted isn't an HIV risk, whatever is making you and your family members sick has nothing to do with HIV and you don't have HIV unless you have been sharing syringes or having other more recent sexual encounters not already mentioned here

I hope you feel better soon but please don't post about this again. Thank you.

[leatherman]

Symptoms still persist since after 3 weeks post exposure.

Symptoms mean nothing.

While some people experience mild symptoms (Fever, Chills, Rash, Night sweats, Muscle aches, Sore throat, Fatigue, Swollen lymph nodes) as HIV first begins to build up in a person's body after the initial infection, most people don't experience any symptoms. Plus these initial symptoms only last a short time - a few days to 2 weeks. After that initial phase is over, it takes years (at least 5 yrs if not closer to 10 yrs) before any further symptoms begin, when someone has reached the stage of Advanced HIV/AIDS.

So symptoms mean nothing. it's all about whether you had a risk or not.

you didn't expose yourself to HIV because you had protected sex.
your family wasn't exposed to HIV (especially since you weren't exposed) because you did not have unprotected sex with you family members or share drug injection syringes with them.
initial HIV symptoms would not have started that soon.
initial HIV symptoms would not have lasted this long.

If you and your family are suffering health issues you would be better off working with a doctor to find the cause and/or checking around your home for a possible environmental cause, rather than trying to think that HIV is the reason