Giving Oral Anxiety

[Finneas5]

Hello,

I have read every post I could and looked up all the information I could find, but I am still paralyzed with anxiety over the idea I exposed myself to HIV.

10 days ago, I met up with someone and performed oral on them to completion. I tasted their semen, but spit it out shortly. He told me he was HIV negative but not taking any Prep, but without any proof, it's best to assume he may have been positive. I hadn't brushed/flossed or had any sores or cuts, but I'm still concerned with the risk of HIV transmission.

I just can't stop worrying, and wanted to ask for any statistics on fellatio and HIV or how to deal with my paranoia. I know I was reckless and I haven't been able to focus for days obsessed with this and knowing I can no longer start PEP. Thank you for your help.

[Jim Allen]

He told me he was HIV negative but not taking any Prep, but without any proof, it's best to assume he may have been positive.

So I'm a bit confused by this, so with proof do you mean proof that he takes PrEP or his negative HIV status? What proof would you accept regarding PrEP and why do you think their claimed PrEP status means anything regarding your risk?

Besides this blowjob, have you had any sexual encounters with others because of "proof" offered and if so what activities? 

[Finneas5]

I just meant to say I am assuming they are HIV positive in this scenario regardless. I realize "proof" is pointless as we don't know the experiences of anyone but ourselves. I haven't had many sexual encounters and this is the only time I've had semen enter my body in any way.

[Jim Allen]

So correct any proof is pointless. They could have tested on the day you met but that means nothing for several reasons including the window period. As for the PrEP, nice for them but their "claimed" PrEP usage would be meaningless to you.

I just meant to say I am assuming they are HIV positive in this scenario regardless.

For every sexual contact (scenario) you should presume they are living with untreated HIV.

10 days ago, I met up with someone and performed oral on them to completion.

The mouth generally lacks a route for HIV to infect also there are barriers such as saliva that neutralizes HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells etc, giving a blowjob is such a minute HIV risk that it doesn't warrant HIV concern or testing outside of routine.

In short; it's not an HIV risk, move on with your life

Of course, you had plenty of risks for far easier-to-transmit STIs but no need to panic every time you give a blowjob, just get tested at least yearly out of standard routine.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Continue PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV and get vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs and as you are taking PrEP its recommended to get a laboratory HIV test every three months.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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