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HIV scare
« on: January 17, 2021, 07:34:26 pm »
Hello,

some time ago, in a drunk folly, I visited a transex escort. The day after, I read some worrying things about the escort on a review forum, her involvement in criminal activities and overall shady behavior.

I panicked, and started worrying about her status and health, so I ran to a specialized doctor explaining the situation and ask for PEP, which I didn't get. Additionally, the doctor told me that even if the escort was positive, I would not have much to worry about, and had no reason to test for this particular episode.

Which I'll describe:

I received uncovered oral sex (with instances of deep throating), and she started playing with my penis and rubbing it against her anus, before pushing it against it, almost as if she was trying to push it in. Which is when I got nervous and intervened by telling her I should put on a condom, with I used to penetrate her anally. The condom slipped halfways a few times (but never above the glans) and I even asked her to change the condom.

Two days after the encounter my penis head burned and was inflamed, but that may have been due to me washing too aggressively and too often after I read the worrying information (mostly because I panicked and got paranoid). After I read about balanitis I only washed it once a day with warm water and no additional soaps for a few days and it went away (still, the timing was kinda suspicious).

I haven't had symptoms such as fever, sore throat or the flu since, but I do sometimes get a weird feeling / slight pain in my joints, random red spots and inflammations (once on the left side of my face, right under the eye, another one on my hand), and have had some episodes of diarrhea (even thought that may have , I Hope, something to do with the anxiety I've been experiencing).

So yeah, here I am, scared and relying on you for help. I know that oral sex is considered low risk, and that by using a condom I should theoretically be fine, but I'm worried about that moment she was pushing my erect penis against her anus entrance.

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Re: HIV scare
« Reply #1 on: January 17, 2021, 07:46:40 pm »
Hiya,

Rubbing against her anus is not an HIV risk and, receiving a blowjob isn't a low HIV risk, it's simply no HIV risk to you. 

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The day after, I read some worrying things about the escort on a review forum, her involvement in criminal activities and overall shady behavior.

Irrelevant to your HIV risk or lack of risk as it turns out.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: HIV scare
« Reply #2 on: January 17, 2021, 07:48:57 pm »
Hiya,

Rubbing against her anus is not an HIV risk and, receiving a blowjob isn't a low HIV risk, it's simply no HIV risk to you. 

Irrelevant to your HIV risk or lack of risk as it turns out.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Among the shady behaviour was that she might be positive, and having unprotected sexual encounters with people (per the reviewer, who says he's had a conversation with someone who claims to be an ex bf of hers).

As for the anal rubbing, what if her anus opened up somewhat while she was pushing my penis against it, and the tip touched upon the edge of the inside (because it felt like I was about to slide into it if I hadn't stopped her and mentioned the condom)?

By the way, sorry if I come across as annoying, I'm just a bit worried (and confused, as I can't pinpoint if I have joint pain and occasional diarrhea because of my anxiety about it, or if they're signs I might potentially have been infected).
« Last Edit: January 17, 2021, 07:53:48 pm by snoki »

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Re: HIV scare
« Reply #3 on: January 17, 2021, 07:55:38 pm »
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Among the shady behaviour was that she might be positive, and having unprotected sexual encounters with people (per the reviewer, who says he's had a conversation with someone who claims to be an ex bf of hers).

A rumour that true or not is totally irrelevant to your HIV risk.
What you posted isn't an HIV concern.
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Re: HIV scare
« Reply #4 on: January 17, 2021, 07:57:57 pm »
A rumour that true or not is totally irrelevant to your HIV risk.
What you posted isn't an HIV concern.

So, based on this specific event, I shouldn't even worry about being potentially infected based on what I posted? (You would be the second person to tell me after the doctor I asked for PEP the day after, but she came off as quite mean and judgemental, so I thought she just wanted me away from her office, whatever risk I may encounter)

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Re: HIV scare
« Reply #5 on: January 17, 2021, 08:03:06 pm »
As I already said, what you posted here isn't an HIV concern. If this was your only sexual activity/encounter than move on with your life.

Use condoms for any intercourse, no exceptions and as you are sexually active test at least yearly out of standard routine for STI's.
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
HIV 101
Read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
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PEP and PrEP

 


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