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I'm so scared
« on: December 26, 2020, 04:43:43 pm »
I had an unprotected sexual encounter.. it was brief (< 30 seconds) but it did happen.  I am the insertive partner with a female sex worker.

I had very light cold symptoms starting day 4 or 5 that have continued since then.  Today is day 16.  I have not had a fever but I had two nights of night sweats.  Now I seem to be developing a rash on my back and arms that feels like a light sunburn, this really has me freaked out.  I took an RNA test at day 7 but results still are not back yet (and this might be too early anyway).  I'm terrified, is there any chance these symptoms are something else?

Is it possible that anxiety is creating some of these symptoms?  Or is it pretty certain what is happening here given the timing to the sexual encounter?
« Last Edit: December 26, 2020, 05:03:26 pm by anxious76 »

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Re: I'm so scared
« Reply #1 on: December 26, 2020, 06:21:05 pm »
Hiya,

Look symptoms on day 4 have nothing to do with HIV from this encounter, nothing else mentioned is HIV specific at all. Talk to your healthcare provider and treat whatever is making you feel unwell instead of stressing about it.

Reading your post I understand that there was very brief condomless penetration.
It is an HIV risk although as it was brief and you were the insertive partner it would be less risky than being the then receptive partner as an example.

If this was your one and only exposure, I suspect you will be fine. Just test with a blood-drawn HIV antibodies test at 6 weeks post-incident, a negative result at that time will rarely ever change. If you wish you can re-test at 3 months post-incident for peace of mind.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: I'm so scared
« Reply #2 on: December 26, 2020, 06:44:44 pm »
I hope you are right, this was infidelity and will destroy my life if I am positive.  (I have been refraining from sex with my wife since this encounter).

I also have had some symptoms of dry mouth and reappearance of cold sores. (I was confused on the cold sore thing since my HSV-1 came back as negative).  Lastly, loss of appetite.. but I suspect that is due to the anxiety of waiting.  I have regularly been feeling for my lymph nodes and they don't seem to be enlarged.

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« Reply #3 on: December 26, 2020, 06:52:00 pm »
Hiya,

Stop checking your lymph nodes, you will just cause them to swell or be sore at some stage. Sorry to hear about the cold sores, the herpes virus is for life and it's a pain.

Regarding the wife, if concerned you may want to test for far easier to acquire STI's as well.

Also, somewhat obvious but I point this out to anyone within a relationship, if you have or do engage in condomless sex with your partner then you are obviously at risk. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

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« Reply #4 on: December 27, 2020, 07:02:26 am »
The other thing that bothers me here is what I've hardly been around other people outside our household (due to Covid) and if I have a cold, my other family members haven't caught it from me (as seems to usually happen in our household).  But if it started to develop around day 5 or so, that really is too early to mean anything?  Its probably more likely I caught a cold from the sex worker than anything else?  (It isn't COVID, I've already had that).

The rash I thought I was developing seemed to go away very quickly after reading your first response, though.  Maybe this was more psychosomatic.

I'm driving myself crazy here because these test results are taking forever to come back!  (Now going on 10 calendar days, and unlikely to be returned now on a Sunday!)

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Re: I'm so scared
« Reply #5 on: December 27, 2020, 07:49:12 am »
The cold and herpes virus etc has nothing to do with HIV from this encounter.

If you continue to feel unwell see your doctor and let them treat whatever is making you feel sick. Regarding HIV test at the appropriate time and, start using condoms going forward.

Jim

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Re: I'm so scared
« Reply #6 on: December 27, 2020, 07:51:14 am »
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Look symptoms on day 4 have nothing to do with HIV from this encounter, nothing else mentioned is HIV specific at all. Talk to your healthcare provider and treat whatever is making you feel unwell instead of stressing about it.

Reading your post I understand that there was very brief condomless penetration.
It is an HIV risk although as it was brief and you were the insertive partner it would be less risky than being the then receptive partner as an example.

If this was your one and only exposure, I suspect you will be fine. Just test with a blood-drawn HIV antibodies test at 6 weeks post-incident, a negative result at that time will rarely ever change. If you wish you can re-test at 3 months post-incident for peace of mind.


Regarding the wife, if concerned you may want to test for far easier to acquire STI's as well.

Also, somewhat obvious but I point this out to anyone within a relationship, if you have or do engage in condomless sex with your partner then you are obviously at risk. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

If you do choose to engage in condomless intercourse, consider testing more frequently for HIV and easier to acquire STI's.
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
HIV 101
Read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
Read about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
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