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Offline RainHeatSnow

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Quasi-unprotected receptive anal
« on: December 22, 2020, 03:25:29 am »
On Dec. 19 I was rimmed and topped by an HIV positive man. Prior to him penetrating me I insisted he wear a condom, which he put on. Halfway during the sex I reached behind myself to check if the condom was still there and it was. At the end of the encounter i reached around to find his unprotected penis and the condom was no longer on his penis. It was dangling near the tip of his dick. I don't know if he lost it on withdrawal or if it came off earlier; I asked him and he said he did not know. I asked him if he came and he said yes, yet I didn't see semen in the condom. I can only conclude there is a chance he ejaculated inside of me without the protection of a condom. He told me he is poz undetectable, but when I asked him when his last viral load test was he became very evasive.

I have been on PREP for atleast two years and my adherence is very good. I seldom miss a dose. The night after of the sexual encounter I went to the ER and asked to be put on PEP, knowing that I'm already on PREP. I wanted the ER doctor to prescribe Isentress or Tivicay to supplement my existing Truvada regimen and he did. So I am on PEP (Truvada & Tivicay) and I was on PREP consistently prior.

How high is my risk for contracting HIV?

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Re: Quasi-unprotected receptive anal
« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2020, 04:30:55 am »
I am not 100% sure what you mean with dangling near the tip. Does this mean the head of the penis was covered with the rest of the condom was dangling?

Anyhow for the sake of the assessment, I will just treat this as the condom came off completely during the intercourse.

The condom went missing during the intercourse, you are already taking PrEP as an additional layer against HIV. Given the PrEP, if this incident was your only possible exposure, I see no real reason for concern. As part of the PrEP routine, you should ideally be testing every 3 months, continue to test when due.

He told me he is poz undetectable, but when I asked him when his last viral load test was he became very evasive.

Just so you know this did not factor into my assessment. The reason is it does not matter what this person claims or says their HIV status is or when their last viral load test would have been. The same goes for when people claim to be HIV negative and recently tested, means nothing. On a personal note, if someone asked me this question I would tell them to f-off.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider taking PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards


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