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Severe Symptoms 20 days after encounter
« on: December 21, 2020, 11:08:39 am »
I know its been said 100000x on here that we don't judge on symptoms, but please hear me out below and see if I have a valid concern.

I had protected encounter with an escort which involved protected oral and then protected vaginal with an off branded condom which she provided. which lasted only about a minute. I was not erect for most of the session and left quickly without ejaculated. She is a known escort and is sometimes reviewed online, I found out afterwards that she was a heavy drug addict and some members online reporting her poking pin holes into the condoms she provides (unverifiable but brings up my anxiety). Lets assume this is true.

What worry me is that exactly 3 weeks after this encounter I got hit with all of the symptoms of first stage HIV that is noted on your site (Poz site). Fever of 38.4 degrees, chills, lymph node enlarge, body ache and dizziness, diarrhea like water, muscle aches, tired I can't even move. This the point where I had to call in sick and stay in bed for 4 days, don't remember last time I got this sick. No cough, not really a sore throat, no rashes (I think, although some parts of my body were redish I don't think it looked like hiv rash pictures online). I have read similar stories of people with very similar symptoms that were positive and the symptoms all hit you at once. Besides the risk of micro holes i hear that oral can damage the condom too.

My question is given these 100% matching symptoms occurred exactly 3 weeks post exposure and the question of pinholes in condoms she provided, would you suggest it is risky enough for testing?? I didn't ejaculated so I can't know if there were holes in the condom. I don't want to spread this to my regular partner as she has a child to take care of... so I am very concerned.

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Re: Severe Symptoms 20 days after encounter
« Reply #1 on: December 21, 2020, 11:37:19 am »
Hiya

Receiving a blowjob with or without condoms is no HIV risk to you. If the BJ had damaged the condom in any relevant way you would have to know about it during the intercourse. 

HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious to the insertive partner. There is no reason to be stressing or testing outside of standard routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

Finally, sorry to hear that you are feeling unwell. Nothing you mentioned is HIV specific, see your doctor and treat whatever is making you fell unwell. Get well soon.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Severe Symptoms 20 days after encounter
« Reply #2 on: December 21, 2020, 11:44:51 am »
EDITED

Sorry, this post was in the wrong window. I have nothing new to add to the assessment provided. 
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Re: Severe Symptoms 20 days after encounter
« Reply #3 on: December 21, 2020, 11:46:24 am »
Hey Jim, thanks for the quick response man, appreciate it. Just to follow up, if there were pin holes in the condom, combo that with my exact potential first stage symptoms which match everything on your website (including week 3 start), you would still not recommend testing for this encounter? Even with a pin hole in the condom and exact symptoms I still don't need to test?

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Re: Severe Symptoms 20 days after encounter
« Reply #4 on: December 21, 2020, 11:52:49 am »
Hiya.

Micro holes are just myths and as for pinholes it would have to be done deliberately and this is the stuff of extremely rare headlines. The condom is there to protect the sex worker and I took this all into account when answering your post.

HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious to the insertive partner. There is no reason to be stressing or testing outside of standard routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

As for your symptoms I have also already answered, ill add that the most common initial symptoms are none whatsoever or nothing noticeable. Stop stressing about HIV, if this was your only sexual encounter since your last HIV test I see no reason to test outside of standard yearly routine.
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Re: Severe Symptoms 20 days after encounter
« Reply #5 on: December 21, 2020, 12:00:22 pm »
Thanks again Jim, appreciate ur expertise and time friend.

I guess I'll use my last followup question to ask that if it is a confirmed pinhole made intentionally (by the csw), would this be enough of an exposure that I should at least go test to definitely rule out HIV or is this still small enough of a risk where I shouldn't be concerned? Again, I have a regular partner with a child so I would really love your honest advise regarding this.

Thanks again Jim I wish you all the best.

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Re: Severe Symptoms 20 days after encounter
« Reply #6 on: December 21, 2020, 12:10:03 pm »
Hiya.

I see no reason to test outside of routine if this was your only sexual encounter since your last routine STI & HIV screening.

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Again, I have a regular partner with a child so I would really love your honest advise regarding this.

Regarding sex with your partner, not many details to go on but if you have engaged in condomless intercourse with your partner you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

Test more frequently for HIV if condomless intercourse does occur.

Jim
« Last Edit: December 21, 2020, 12:16:53 pm by Jim Allen »
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