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How to Disclose Status to Online Hookups? Avoiding long conversations, same day sex, finding right guys, keep face public, avoid posting status publicly, and venue is at home.

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Offline 1519426

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How to Disclose Status to Online Hookups
« on: November 04, 2020, 08:40:28 am »
How to disclose my status on Grindr to hookup?

1. Avoid long conversations.
2. Increase chance of same day or immediate sex.
3. Finding the right guys.
4. Keep my face public.
5. Avoid posting status publicly.
6. Guys either want you to go to their homes or come to yours.

I do not want neighbors slashing my tires or cutting my breaks, I have already gotten death threats for posting my status publicly when living in a previous area.

I do not want to pay for a hotel, so the only option that has worked previously was going to a tourist's room for sex as they were the only ones who could guarantee instant sex and the security of security cameras, guards, etc. which made me feel safe. The goal essentially is to have sex with strangers off the internet "Hookups" safely yet disclose.

Currently I am between sending "I have HIV and Papilloma" when a guy sends nudes and I like him AND stalling indefinitely until I think they might not be a threat even if they say they are interested.

Please also note that antiquated HIV Criminalization laws in my country (Dominican Republic) still exist.

« Last Edit: November 04, 2020, 09:12:47 am by 1519426 »

Offline harleymc

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Re: How to Disclose Status to Online Hookups
« Reply #1 on: November 04, 2020, 11:17:49 pm »
I stick my poz status in my profile. Never had a negative reaction.

Offline fabio

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Re: How to Disclose Status to Online Hookups
« Reply #2 on: November 05, 2020, 11:31:11 am »
I believe up close is best.

Offline harleymc

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Re: How to Disclose Status to Online Hookups
« Reply #3 on: November 07, 2020, 12:47:20 am »
Up close can get you bashed or murdered.

Also creating an electronic brecord of the notification either by text or profile provides evidence in case anyone wants to charge you.

Offline PozChilean

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Re: How to Disclose Status to Online Hookups
« Reply #4 on: November 29, 2020, 07:10:21 pm »
If you're having a one-night stand and you wear a condom, do you feel the need to disclose your positive status?


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