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Help me please .
« on: October 02, 2020, 04:20:36 am »
Hello I gave a blowjob to a trans, I worried after the blowjob because I noticed that I had a taste of blood in my mouth. I have a gum in the back of my mouth which bleeds as soon as I the key.
But I am coming to read here normally no risk.
15 days later I had diarrhea which never happens to me.
The biggest problem is that I made love to my wife 1 week after taking the risk and she 2 weeks later she had like a flu with diarrhea, ganglion, intense fatigue, the doctor had to put on his antibiotic but he didn't quite understand all these symptoms.
I am terrified especially for her, I can not even find the courage to take the test, I am living a waking nightmare.

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« Reply #1 on: October 02, 2020, 04:51:05 am »
Hiya,

None of the symptoms mentioned are HIV specific, keep working with your doctor if you feel unwell to treat whatever is making you sick. I hope both of you feel better soon.

Regarding giving a blowjob, the mouth simply lacks route (Cells to infect) for HIV, and even if there was damage to your mouth as in meth mouth or gaping open wounds creating a possible route than saliva & air also act to neutralize HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells.

All in all, giving a blowjob is such a minute concern with regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over it. Just get tested whenever you are next normally due a routine check-up.

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The biggest problem is that I made love to my wife

Regading your wife,if you engage in condomless sex with your partner then you are obviously at risk. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

If you choose to engage in condomless intercourse, consider testing more  frequently for HIV and easier to acquire STI's.

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I can not even find the courage to take the test, I am living a waking nightmare.

Look I'm sorry to hear that you're scared to test.

I have to point out that the blowjob isn't a real-world HIV concern though, just from the inital post it seems you have had other real risks and, besides that, you should be testing at least yearly just out of standard routine. 

Recommed if you had condomless sex or other risks not mentioned here to test at 6 weeks post last possible exposure with a blood-drawn HIV antibodies test, a negative result at that time will rarely ever change. Retesting beyond that when it's a blood-drawn lab antibodies test is generally not needed, but, if you wish you can retest for a definite result at 3 months post last possible exposure.

End of the day knowing your STI status means you can treat or even cure many STI's before they do any permanent damage. The scary part is if you don't test and end up having permanent damage that could have been prevented by testing. 

In regards to HIV knowing your status means you can start treatment to suppress the virus and live a long healthy life, also, by starting and staying on treatment you will reduce the levels of HIV in your body to a point that you can't pass it on sexually to others.

Testing and knowing your STI & HIV status would also mean no longer having to stress about it. Peace of mind is priceless

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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« Reply #2 on: October 02, 2020, 05:31:18 am »

Jim thank you for your answer no it's the only risk I took, I never cheated on my wife by this fantasy.
The blood that flowed from my gum more if it had pre seminal fluid, are you sure that it carries zero risk?
why in most of the sites he notes low risk for the one who sucks with aggaravation if ejaculation and all the more so if bleeding gums.
I'm lost....

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« Reply #3 on: October 02, 2020, 05:44:58 am »
Hiya,

Regarding what other sites say, I don't know why and I can't police them, there are plenty of places online that are outdated or post scaremonging nonsense like claims toilet seats and sharing cups are HIV risks when that's simply not the case.

As explained, the BJ was a minute concern with regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over. See even if there was damage to your mouth as in meth mouth or gaping open wounds creating a possible route than saliva & air also act to neutralize HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells.

The only real risk HIV risk to you from, what you mentioned would be sex with your wife. Recommed if you had condomless sex to test at 6 weeks post last possible exposure with a blood-drawn HIV antibodies test to know your HIV status. A negative result at that time will rarely ever change and retesting beyond that when it's a blood-drawn lab antibodies test is generally not needed, but, if you wish you can retest for a definite result at 3 months post last possible exposure.

Jim
« Last Edit: October 02, 2020, 05:49:06 am by Jim Allen »
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Read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
Read about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
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