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Do I have a high chance of becoming positive?
« on: September 13, 2020, 08:52:43 am »
I had a sex with my fiancť on Monday this week, pretty normal nothing unusual. On Friday he wakes me up at 6:30 am because he has gotten an email from a HIV RNA test saying that he is positive for HIV. I did not know that he was bisexual or that he was cheating. He had a unprotected encounter with a man about 3-4 weeks ago. I went and got a HIV RNA test as well as a rapid test. He did the rapid test as well and showed positive again but I showed negative. But I know just 4 days is not a lot of time. We hadnít had sex in a couple weeks until that Monday, I was feeling like he wasnít interested in me but turns out he was worried about infection and I didnít know. Heís scared and Iím trying to be supportive but itís hard that he stepped out of our relationship and had unprotected sex and brought this back to me. I guess Iím just curious what my actual risk is having slept with him once. Thank you

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Re: Do I have a high chance of becoming positive?
« Reply #1 on: September 13, 2020, 10:11:48 am »
Hiya,

Understand that your fiancť has had a reactive HIV test result, this news can be a lot to digest for the both of you. He will need to work with his healthcare provider to confirm the diagnosis and if confirmed start treatment. 

Regading your risk, I presume it was condomless sex. It's a risk so test at 6 weeks post-exposure with a blood-drawn HIV antibodies test, a negative result at that time will rarely ever change, although, you can test for a definite result at 3 months post-exposure if you wish. Also test for far easier to acquire STI's.

If you are testing with rapid tests then just wait and test at 3 months as results before that are unreliable.

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brought this back to me.

Look ill say the same thing I do to anyone posting here about sex within a relationship, If you engage in condomless sex with your partner then you are obviously at risk. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV and any condomless intercourse is accepting the possible risk of acquiring HIV.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Do I have a high chance of becoming positive?
« Reply #2 on: September 13, 2020, 11:44:09 am »
Your right engaging in condomless sex is risk. I was under the assumption that I was his only partner for the past 4 years
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Re: Do I have a high chance of becoming positive?
« Reply #3 on: September 13, 2020, 05:55:13 pm »
Hiya,

Just test when due to know your HIV status and as hard as it seems try not to focus on it in the meantime.

Best, Jim

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Re: Do I have a high chance of becoming positive?
« Reply #4 on: September 13, 2020, 09:35:13 pm »
Thank you I will

 


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