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Offline worriedsomuch98

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Am I at Risk?
« on: September 08, 2020, 10:12:58 pm »
Not really sure how to write this. I had the weirdest sexual encounter of my life earlier today. I am a male who had sex with another male (I was the bottom in this instance), but the situation was really complicated. What started out as a mere case of oral (I sucked him with the condom on) turned into very quick anal sex (no longer than a minute). I got cold feet around insertion, but I was being held by him and couldn't break away easily and simply froze. By the time I had come to my senses said no (and he stopped when I did), at least 30 seconds had passed. Perhaps a minute. He pulled out, and I saw the condom was still on him. He asked if I wanted to continue. I said no. He got angry and pulled the condom off and threw it on the ground and left. I picked it up and took it home to test (yes, I know that's not advised). Well, in my case, the condom had absolutely no leaks, and this is even after testing multiple times. Does that mean the condom didn't break? I thought I heard something when he penetrated me, but he said it wasn't the condom breaking because he would be able to feel that, and I didn't notice any tears (and again, no liquid came out of the condom when I tested). It was a durex rubber latex condom used with a water-based lube. I did see a little line at the tip of the condom when held up, but nothing came out of it during the test, so I would assume that is good. Is that a safe assumption?

Long story short, am I at risk here? I'm really regretting meeting this guy at all. All the contact I made with him (blowjob + insertion) was done with the condom on. How worried should I be on a scale of one to ten? I appreciate the feedback and am really nervous right now. I am also wondering if I should get a prophylaxis at the hospital. I heard there is a three-day window for PEP, and I'm wondering if that is something that is necessary in my case.

Thanks so much for your help!

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Re: Am I at Risk?
« Reply #1 on: September 08, 2020, 10:23:18 pm »
Hiya,

Sorry to hear that you had a bad experience, understand this has left you a bit shaken.

However, unless a condom obvouisly breaks during the act of intercourse there is no reason for stressing or testing outside of routine. So if this was your only sexual encounter, put this HIV fear behind you and move on with your life.

Stop playing around with used condoms after sex.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Offline worriedsomuch98

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Re: Am I at Risk?
« Reply #2 on: September 08, 2020, 10:35:15 pm »
Thank you so much! That puts my mind at ease. I will just test when I'm due, then, and I'll try to stop fooling around with used condoms.  ;D

Hope you have a great evening. :)

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Re: Am I at Risk?
« Reply #3 on: September 08, 2020, 11:00:06 pm »
You're welcome.
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