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Offline Dutchgrant

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Unfortunate encounter
« on: September 07, 2020, 06:28:44 pm »

around 10 days ago i had an encounter with a guy of unknown status I met on an app (I am male myself). It was a rather distressing experience because until I did his bidding, the guy was not going to let me go. That, coupled with the fact that this guy, based on his country of origin and sexual orientation, had 1 in 4 chances of being positive, I was left with a lot of anxiety after the fact.

One of my main concerns is that, after kissing me, he started vigorously biting my nipples. I did not notice blood at the time, but after a couple of days I noticed a few scabs over my nipples, so he probably ruptured my skin with his teeth. The room was dark, but I did not see blood in his mouth.
I then proceeded to masturbate him and he came all over my hands. Finally I managed to leave shortly after that. When I arrived back home I noticed I had a couple of nicks/small cuts behind both of my thumbs. I cannot remember when I got them or if they were still fresh when I got his semen all over them.

My panties stayed on the entire time and I did not perform oral nor anal sex. My main concerns are the bites on my nipples and his sexual fluids on my hands (with small cuts).

I read a lot of posts on this forum about similar sex acts to my case, but since I am apparently not able to calm my anxiety, I am here to hear your risk assessment of my situation, considering that he might have had acute HIV infection with a high viral load. I know I have to wait 3 months now before a definitive HIV test result. I cannot stop thinking about this incident. I had already tested for HIV a couple of weeks before this encounter, with negative result. How much at risk am I now?
I blame myself a lot for putting myself in such a situation and for allowing a stranger to take advantage of me. Thank you very much in advance.

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Re: Unfortunate encounter
« Reply #1 on: September 07, 2020, 09:23:36 pm »

Sorry to hear about your experience and that you have been left shaken.
That said I read your post three times and nothing you posted was any HIV to you whatsoever.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards


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