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Please Help Access This Risk
« on: September 06, 2020, 10:49:39 am »
Bisexual man, I had protected sex with 3 guys, one of them I have been having sex with for 2-3 years I already know him but also used protection with him too, he ALWAYS brings his own lube and his own condoms I also keep my own to but he always insist on using his Iíve asked him countless times did he have anything heíd always say No ! The other 2 guys I didnít know very well at all but Iíve also had PROTECTED sex with them too only unprotected oral with both guys, one didnít precum at all and the other one had a ton of Precum which is starting to make me scared, and he only went inside of me with the condom on one time and then took it out because it was too big, he used his saliva as lube,  Iíve just noticed maybe a 3 months ago my gums is acting up idk what it could be on one side my gums bleed sometimes even for no reason at all ! And it could have been happening when I was going down on him, all three were protected my friend we always used condoms he seems to be very careful. Could he have cum and put it in his lube ?? and use it in me, could he be POKING HOLES in his condoms to infect me even if he had anything ! He uses crown condoms, 5 days to a week, I had strep throat normally I donít get strep throat out of the blue like that I mean flu like symptoms and bad fever chills freezing NEVER had that happen to me before like that. went to the doctor they tested it and said it was strep, I got paranoid because it was so out of the blue ! Months later Iím suffereing with my stomach looks like Iím loosing weight my stomach is constantly feeling empty I get nauseous I keep being bloated and passing gas just feeling terrible in the gut and itís still going on went had endoscopy etc done he said I had bad gastritis and gerd, I recently had developed which looked like a little canker sore at the bottom base of my gums little like a pin prick itís gone now if anyone can enlighten me on this I would love to hear what you guys have to say, google is not helping ! Everything that happened the event of the things thatís been going on have been very separated idk if it could be colon cancer or what not Iíve gave it months to stop but my stomach is still acting up causing me to look like Iíve lost weight around my rib area, help anyone ??? My bones have now started aching recently as well, I have always used protection always without a doubt but now Iím scared I was being safe checked 2 of the condoms from 2 diff ppl including my friend but sometimes my friend takes the condom with him I donít know Iím scared these symptoms have not stopped my exposure was last year around august

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Re: Please Help Access This Risk
« Reply #1 on: September 06, 2020, 12:36:15 pm »
Hiya

Sorry to hear that you have been feeling unwell, nothing you mentioned is HIV specific, some of it would be unrelated regardless of your HIV status.

I hope you feel better soon, keep working with your doctor.

The intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious. There is no reason to be stressing about intercourse as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

As for giving a blowjob, it's a risk but such a minute one with regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over it.

Just get tested during your next normally due routine STI & HIV check-up.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Please Help Access This Risk
« Reply #2 on: September 06, 2020, 12:57:20 pm »
What do you think about him ejaculating in his lube ?? And or poking holes in the condom in these events the things that have been going on is very weird of my body to act like this ! And on top of that I have given it months to stop or subside and it keeps going on the doctors act like they donít know what to do to help me I have taken stomach medication etc nothing seems to be working feels like Iím loosing hope, what if precum got on hands of someone and it goes on the outside of the condom is that a risk ?! Could that be a risk Mr. Jim ?

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Re: Please Help Access This Risk
« Reply #3 on: September 06, 2020, 12:59:33 pm »
And you stated also that giving oral sex is a risk right ?

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Re: Please Help Access This Risk
« Reply #4 on: September 06, 2020, 01:23:56 pm »
Hiya

Fluids on their hands, the outside of the condom or in the lube are not HIV risks.

The condoms and symptoms I've already addressed and I did read your post fully three times before I answered.

Giving a BJ as mentioned above is a minute risk that doesn't warrant testing outside of routine screening.

Best, Jim
« Last Edit: September 06, 2020, 01:27:05 pm by Jim Allen »
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