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Author Topic: Was I at risk? Terrified  (Read 474 times)

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Offline Lilybelle22

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Was I at risk? Terrified
« on: August 31, 2020, 04:38:05 pm »
So in November 2019 I gave a guy a blowjob, he said I caught my teeth on his penis (although I didnít notice this) and it started bleeding, I had his blood in my mouth and it wasnít a lot but I donít know his HIV status. I also think I had a slight wound at the back of my gum at the time but it was small and not bleeding. We stopped but then we had sex instead and I thought this would be okay as we used a condom, but it was bleeding inside the condom. We checked after and it didnít break but I am concerned that somehow the blood ended up inside me and on the top of the condom when he was putting it on. How long does HIV survive in air? I asked for his HIV status and he said he hadnít been tested in 10 years but he was confident he didnít have it and was clean. I got a canker sore 1-2 weeks after for about a week. Is this an ARS symptom? I have been reading and apparently it is. I got no other symptoms apart from a cold 2 months later but I donít think this is related. I have a home test kit on itís way. I canít stop worrying.

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Re: Was I at risk? Terrified
« Reply #1 on: August 31, 2020, 08:16:39 pm »
Hiya,

Sorry to hear that you are worried. None of the sysmtoms mentioned were HIV specific.

I read your post three times, regading the blowjob, the mouth simply lacks route (Cells to infect) for HIV, and even if there was gaping open holes in your mouth creating a possible route than saliva & air also act to neutralize HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells.

All in all, giving a blowjob is such a minute concern with regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over it.

Regading fluids on the outside of the condom when putting it on, this is not an HIV concern and HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious to the insertive partner. There is no reason to be stressing or testing outside of standard routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

If this was your only sexual encounter than the recommendation would be to just get tested whenever you are next normally due a routine check-up.

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I asked for his HIV status and he said he hadnít been tested in 10 years but he was confident he didnít have it and was clean

Nothing the guy claims would be relevant, even if he had tested the same day as your encounter it would mean nothing due to the window period on tests

Finally, quote or not can you please leave the term "clean" for HIV negative out of your posting. Living with HIV does not somehow make people dirty, I wash daily and I am clean, I presume the majority of the members here also wash and have decent personal hygiene.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Was I at risk? Terrified
« Reply #2 on: August 31, 2020, 08:34:11 pm »
Thanks Jim.
Also apologise for my choice of wording there. I understand it wasnít the best word to use and I am sorry for that. Itís just the wording he used when telling me.
Thank you for your reply. Going to test anyway for a piece of mind.

Just one more question though, what if there was blood on the outside of the condom when inserting into me, surely that is a risk right as itís on the outside?
« Last Edit: August 31, 2020, 08:38:18 pm by Lilybelle22 »

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Re: Was I at risk? Terrified
« Reply #3 on: August 31, 2020, 08:46:02 pm »
Hiya,

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Regading fluids on the outside of the condom when putting it on, this is not an HIV concern

I already answered, it's not a concern.

If what you posted was your only sexual encounter then try to relax. You had a minute HIV risk that doesn't require testing outside of standard routine but by all means you can test sooner for peace of mind.

Best, Jim
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Re: Was I at risk? Terrified
« Reply #4 on: September 01, 2020, 09:53:32 am »
Sorry just I asked this on other forums and they say high risk and need a test :/ ugh I am worried now

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Re: Was I at risk? Terrified
« Reply #5 on: September 01, 2020, 10:21:04 am »
Hiya.

To be honest I don't care what other sites claim, plenty that still claim shaking hands etc is an HIV risk when it's not.

There is a lot of misinformation, scaremongering and stories on the internet and outdated data/opinions that get passed around as facts, We, however, rely on the latest scientific peer-reviewed science for our assessments.

I've explained you had a minute HIV risk based on the activities mentioned, if this was your only sexual encounter it doesn't require testing outside of standard routine but by all means test sooner if it helps you move on.

Jim
« Last Edit: September 01, 2020, 11:05:47 am by Jim Allen »
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