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Offline Charlie.richardson

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Please assess risk with encounter
« on: August 09, 2020, 02:51:57 pm »
On Friday I had a first encounter with a transgender prostitute.
This encounter involved protected oral and protected anal, me being top
The condom was not changed between oral and anal, and total encounter lasted about 10mins
I was not able to get completely erect during the encounter and don't remember feeling any change during the anal portion.

I was still a bit tipsy from drinking and don't recall if the condom had failed or not after the encounter...i do remember removing it by the base ring, pulling it up and off where it would turn inside out and cleaning up. I did not check it or put water through it or anything.

Of course the day after the encounter I started reading the forums since I have never went through anything like this before and have a wife at home

Would I have know if the condom broke? Was I at risk and should seek out PeP?

Or is my guilt and remorse for my actions, fueling everything and I should move on from this.

Thank you in advance for any help and guidance.


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Re: Please assess risk with encounter
« Reply #1 on: August 09, 2020, 03:11:45 pm »
Hiya,

Look HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom, if a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious to the insertive partner. There is no reason to be stressing about intercourse or testing outside of yearly routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

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I did not check it or put water through it or anything
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There is no way or need for you to "test" condoms, if you test the condom before you use it this can weaken the condom, making it more likely to break during use. So don't and, also never test a condom after you use it either. Instead, immediately dispose of the condom in the bin.

Testing the condom after intercourse could damage the condom, as it's not designed as a reusable (re-stressed) product and this could lead you to mistakenly think that the condom was damaged during sex, when in fact you actually caused the damage after the intercourse by trying to "test" it with water. In short, testing the condom yourself before or after use is not a reliable way to tell you anything.

Testing condoms yourself is basically a step shy of all-out paranoia if you ask me. Instead, use condoms correctly and consistently for any intercourse no exceptions and test for HIV & STI's out of standard routine at least yearly. 

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Offline Charlie.richardson

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Re: Please assess risk with encounter
« Reply #2 on: August 09, 2020, 05:15:43 pm »
Would it be noticeable in like shred, rip apart, or hanging off?
There wouldn't be just some sort of hole after oral or after the fact
I dont believe I saw my head exposed when we were done

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Re: Please assess risk with encounter
« Reply #3 on: August 09, 2020, 05:33:13 pm »
Obvious as in unable to not notice, totally ripped or shredded
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Offline Charlie.richardson

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Re: Please assess risk with encounter
« Reply #4 on: August 09, 2020, 06:05:16 pm »
Jim
Thank you for taking the time for answering my post.

I dont believe that it was shredded
And if this was the case than there is no reason to seek out PeP and just move along and that my guilt and remorse is just fueling paranoia from this encounter?

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Re: Please assess risk with encounter
« Reply #5 on: August 09, 2020, 06:15:21 pm »
Hiya,

I've answered this already as in there is no reason to even test outside of routine ... let alone PEP.  If it had broken I would have told you it was a risk and to test and that PEP was up-to you.

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HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom, if a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious to the insertive partner. There is no reason to be stressing about intercourse or testing outside of yearly routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

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my guilt and remorse

I have no idea what you are feeling guilty about, however, no amount of guilt is going to change your HIV assessment of this encounter.

Put it behind you already and remember to use condoms correctly and consistently for any intercourse no exceptions and test for HIV & STI's out of standard routine at least yearly.
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