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Should I worry?
« on: July 28, 2020, 04:25:44 pm »
Hello. Thank you for allowing me to be here! I am having somewhat of a mental breakdown. I am a male and I recently had protected anal sex with a person I know (I was being penetrated).This encounter took place Saturday July 25, 2020 and it was very quick. Before the encounter happened, I went to a local farmacy and bought a 3 pack box of condom, lubricant and pack of new boxer shorts. The person I know arrived at my house, I told him It first needed to take a good shower. After that I asked him to please wear a mask (due to coronavirus). I also asked him to wear the new boxer short I bought. I never touched his penis, I just stroked it with the boxers on and I never performed oral sex on him nor him on me. I asked him to pull out his penis and I put the condom on. When I put the condom on, I held the tip of the condom and unrolled it down his penis all the way to the base. I washed my hands just in case and proceeded to apply lubricant to my hand and apply it to my anus and condom. After the sex was done, we both went to the bathroom and he asked me to remove the condom from him (he was still hard, I could see the semen in the tip of the condom, it did not unroll and did not slip) he proceeded to remove the condom and discard it. I was the first to take a shower, then he proceeded as well.

As you may notice, yes I am very picky with the way I have sex. I wanted to be 100% safe and avoid any possible HIV or STD. This person a while back (1 year or so) got tested threw rapid 20 minute HIV test and it came back negative. I went to a local farmacy and purchased a HIV home kit. I talked to him about being worried and he agreed to take the test. I check the expiration date (2022) opened the package and followed the instructions. I opened the vial and opened the swab and proceeded to swab his gums per the instruction. The test started at 3:06pm and I waited the 20 minutes (3:27pm) and the test was negative. I gave the test 10 more minutes and it was still negative. I talked to him and he saw the test result. Even tho it was protected and I did an overkill (yes, I know) I still have thoughts in my mind about it. I called a std call center and went today to my STD doctor and talked to him about the encounter and everything previously stated here. Both my doctor and the std call center said I shouldn't worry since I used a condom and everything was done correctly. I still had blood drawn and sent to lab. Should I be worried or just get over it? Thank you so much for your time and patience for reading threw this.

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Re: Should I worry?
« Reply #1 on: July 28, 2020, 04:56:54 pm »
Hiya,

Sorry to hear that you have had so many concerns and, i'll try to answer a few of them.

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This person a while back (1 year or so) got tested threw rapid 20 minute HIV test and it came back negative. I went to a local farmacy and purchased a HIV home kit. I talked to him about being worried and he agreed to take the test. I check the expiration date (2022) opened the package and followed the instructions. I opened the vial and opened the swab and proceeded to swab his gums per the instruction. The test started at 3:06pm and I waited the 20 minutes (3:27pm) and the test was negative. I gave the test 10 more minutes and it was still negative. I talked to him and he saw the test result. Even tho it was protected and I did an overkill (yes, I know) I still have thoughts in my mind about it.

So some 3 months ago it's relatively safe to say he was negative if he tested negative today and if the result had been reactive it would change nothing to the rest of my assessment. BTW for the sake of the risk assessment I will simply presume he is living with HIV, just unaware of it.

As for the intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious and there is no reason to be stressing or testing outside of standard routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

If this was your only sexual encounter then relax and move on with your life.

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I wanted to be 100% safe and avoid any possible HIV or STD.

HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom, however, there is no such thing as safe sex just safer sex. Condoms can break, and even if that does not happen the levels of protection for various STIs, depends greatly on differences in how the diseases or infections are transmitted.  Some infections (Not HIV) are transmitted primarily by skin-to-skin contact, which may infect areas not covered by a condom, such as genital herpes, human papillomavirus [HPV], etc.

Sex comes with risks, no need to stress though, just reduce the risks by using condoms and test at least yearly for STI's out of routine.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for acquiring far easier to transmit STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Should I worry?
« Reply #2 on: July 28, 2020, 05:33:47 pm »
Thank you for your answer. So, should I stop worrying and continue with my life and just continue to get tested normally as I always do? Thanks!

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Re: Should I worry?
« Reply #3 on: July 28, 2020, 07:20:43 pm »
You're welcome.

Thank you for your answer. So, should I stop worrying and continue with my life and just continue to get tested normally as I always do? Thanks!

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Re: Should I worry?
« Reply #4 on: August 02, 2020, 08:45:57 pm »
Just updating.

The person I had sex with did another HIV Oraquick test which was negative as well. Still worried tho. But up until now I have been fine, just worried thinking sometimes (sigh). Will get tested at 4 weeks, it has been 1 week and 1 day today. Thanks.

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« Reply #5 on: August 03, 2020, 09:56:40 am »
Hiya,

His results are meaningless to you. Now nothing you mentioned here warrents testing outside of standard routine as explained to you.

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As for the intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious and there is no reason to be stressing or testing outside of standard routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

If this was your only sexual encounter then relax and move on with your life.

Now if you had other exposures or can't move on with your life then by all means test, that is the only way to know your HIV status . Just remember to test as per the window period if you did have any recent exposures.
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
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