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Author Topic: I have no idea what to believe anymore with regards to HIV transmission  (Read 595 times)

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Offline Maverick1297

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Hi everyone, a couple of days ago I received a handjob and footjob from an escort. I gave her a back massage and then she performed the handjob and footjob on me. She used baby oil as lubricant.

I did not see any visible blood. I also have no visible cuts on my penis. Is there a possibility for hiv infection? What if she had a cut on her finger, as this is not impossible, then some blood from her cut entered my urethra without me noticing? She gave me a bottle of water before we started with anything and I didnít see any blood on the bottle from her touching it. Then again I didnít inspect the bottle, neither did I inspect her hands. The room was well light, and I sat upright during everything and didnít see any blood. Or I just didnít notice it.

The next day my penis head was very dry, and had some marks on. Dry marks. Not wounds or anything and also didnít hurt. Not sure what this is.

I think I must give everyone some background as to why I have HIV fears. Last year I met a girl and we went for dinner. I didnít drink any alcohol as I am a Triathlete. Then when I dropped her at her house I have her 3 ďsocial kissesĒ. Our lips touch for 2 seconds max. It was definitely not a french kiss.

The next day I went to my local GP to get a routine check up on everything. Not anything sexual related because I am not sexually active. I asked her about the kiss from the previous night. I also told her that I tend to bite my inner lip so I normally have small wounds on my inner lip. Nothing serious bleeding. What she told me next freaked me out completely. The Dr said, there is a low risk for HIV infection from the kisses because the girl could have had blood in her mouth. I then asked her about PEP, and she advised me to start with PEP. I am in South Africa if this makes any difference.

She said she wouldnít take the risk and prescribed me 30 days of PEP. I firstly had my blood drawn and got a full STD panel, everything negative. I finished the PEP course without missing a dose because I was freaked out. 3 and 6 months after finishing the PEP I did a rapid finger prick HIV test and both were negative. So Iím not sure if I were lucky but not getting infected or the PEP worked.

Since then I am too afraid for any human interaction. Especially intercourse. Thatís why I decided to visit an escorts for a handjob to try and get over my fears. After this all my fears are back. I really thought a handjob is the safest thing I could do. I mean seriously. And after some research on the Internet, again I came across the terms really low risks and almost no risk. This is freaking me out. I donít know what to believe anymore.

Please give my the facts. Even if it is that I had a low riks and there is a possibility for HIV infection.

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Hiya,

The handjob was no HIV risk whatsoever and neither were the kisses from 2 years ago.

I am sorry to hear that this irrational HIV fear has caused so many problems and limitations in your life. I think you should at least consider speaking to a qualified therapist to help you cope with your fears.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Offline Maverick1297

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Thank you for you swift response I really appreciate it!

Unfortunately not all my fears are gone. Probably due to my own anxiety, fears and who know what else.

I have studied this forum and found that you mention that 4 biological factors should be present for HIV to transmitted. Please explain to me, because in my mind all 4 are present.

There could have been blood on the womanís hand, therefore HIV is present. There is a route for it to enter my body... My urethra... If HIV can survive days in dried blood, as studies show. How can it not survive a couple of seconds in fresh blood from a wound? Then enter my urethra and infect me?

Please advise on testing. Should I test after 6 weeks because of this situation?

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Hiya,

There was no blood present on her hands, that's just irrational fear speaking.

Even if there was some blood it's not a concern unless it some strange weird extreme never happened situation like having stabbed herself with a knife first requiring stitches instead of seeking urgent medical attention she gave you a handjob instead bleeding all over the place. It does not sound like you were covered in blood afterwards so it just your fears is just part of twisting of facts out of context to fit what you think is a risk.

In short, sexually HIV transmission is limited to certain activities within the confines of the human body.

How fragile HIV is would be one reason, the receptors needed to infect corrode once exposed outside the human body, hence nobody has ever been infected from day to day or sexual contact once fluids have been outside the human body. This fear of yours is called "spillage" fears, it simply does not happen in the real world outside of a Petri-dish. In addition, your concern lacks a number of other conditions required to acquire HIV.

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Please advise on testing. Should I test after 6 weeks because of this situation?

Look I am not going to pretend testing is needed or you have found a new way for HIV to transmit that the entire scientific community missed after 40 years since this pandemic started. If I did pretend testing was needed over this concern it would be a disservice to you and the community at large.

As said, I am sorry to hear that this irrational HIV fear has caused so many problems and limitations in your life. I think you should at least consider speaking to a qualified therapist to help you cope with your fears.

Finally, I do hope you can put this behind you and I wish you well, however, if you post about these fears and to be frank nonsense again it's going to lead to a 28-day ban from the forum to encourage you to seek face to face support.

Jim
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Offline Maverick1297

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Hi Jim,

Thanks again for your detailed response. I really appreciate you taking the time to explain this to me. I will accept your advice and facts and move on.

Just a remark, if I refrain from any intercourse. Anal and or vaginal, donít share needles or something like that. I literally never have to test for HIV?

Then a last question, if one uses a needle that is not attached to a syringe, to remove for example a thorn under your skin. Thus literally only using the sharp point to open up your skin. Not inserting deep in your skin tissue. Is this considered sharing needles? Or is it not the same thing?


Offline Jim Allen

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Giving a blowjob would be considered a near negligible HIV risk that wouldn't require testing outside of standard yearly routine and you should also be testing for far easier to acquire STI's.

The needle question is also not an HIV concern.
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
HIV 101
Read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
Read about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
Read about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

 


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