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Author Topic: UNPROTECTED ORAL AND PROTECTED VAGINAL SEX WITH HERPES  (Read 1180 times)

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UNPROTECTED ORAL AND PROTECTED VAGINAL SEX WITH HERPES
« on: May 12, 2020, 07:55:49 am »
Hello,

This is my one year nightmare, I live in Africa and I hooked up with a lady of the night on the 21st of June 2019 and she gave me a blow job with my penis unprotected and we then proceeded to have protected vaginal sex. Then problem is, at the time I had an herpes sore on my penis, the condom I used was a cheap brand provided by the security at the place we lodged and I had sex with my wife one week after(selfish of me).

17 days after (7th July 2019), I was down with illness that started with chills/shivering then a fever and afterwards night sweats after which I felt a bit better. The next day, the symptoms repeated the same way i.e chills/shivering, fever and night sweats. I got better 3 days later after taking OTC drugs. However, a week after my illness my wife also came down with a fever and headache.

About a 107 days (8th October 2019) after the encounter, I bought a rapid home test kit, I'm not sure I used it properly but only the control line showed when i did the test. On the 27th of November I was down with fever and headache that was on and off for about 10 days.

I have been dead worried and scared since the night of 21st June 2019 especially with my symptoms and that of my wife, have I infected my wife? Did get HIV through my herpes sore during oral or is it possible I got it from the penetrative sex since the condom was not so good and the herpes sore was present?

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Re: UNPROTECTED ORAL AND PROTECTED VAGINAL SEX WITH HERPES
« Reply #1 on: May 12, 2020, 08:09:38 am »
Hiya,

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I hooked up with a lady of the night on the 21st of June 2019 and she gave me a blow job with my penis unprotected and we then proceeded to have protected vaginal sex. Then problem is, at the time I had an herpes sore on my penis, the condom I used was a cheap brand provided by the security at the place we lodged

Not an HIV concern, Herpes does not change that. Receiving a blowjob is no HIV risk to you whatsoever.  It lacks all the conditions required for acquiring HIV,  thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's there hasn’t been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked") and you will not be the worlds first.

Also, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious to the insertive partner. There is no reason to be stressing as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

The only obvious risk was the herpes risk to the other person.

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About a 107 days (8th October 2019) after the encounter, I bought a rapid home test kit, I'm not sure I used it properly but only the control line showed when i did the test.

The control line means the test was working, the sample size was sufficient.
No HIV testing was specifically needed, you did anyway and the result as expected was negative.

It's simple you did not acquire HIV from the encounter. No obvious risk and a negative test result.

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I had sex with my wife

Regarding your partner, obviously, if you engage in condomless sex with your partner it would meet all the biological conditions needed for you to acquire HIV.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in condomless sex, it's often based on trust within a relationship or past test results. However, just note this trust or past results does not prevent HIV and any condomless intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk towards you of acquiring HIV.

Finally, I am sorry to hear you have been feeling unwell, nothing you mentioned, however, is HIV specific and, it's certainly not related to HIV from the events of the 21st of June. I hope you feel better soon but work with your doctor to treat whatever is making you feel unwell.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: UNPROTECTED ORAL AND PROTECTED VAGINAL SEX WITH HERPES
« Reply #2 on: June 15, 2020, 04:18:42 am »
hi Jim,

Just wanted to know, how long is the window period for 2nd generation test to detect HIV? Is a rapid test after 107 days conclusive? Is it possible that blood sample taken for the rapid test was dry and not enough and yet the control line showed?

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Re: UNPROTECTED ORAL AND PROTECTED VAGINAL SEX WITH HERPES
« Reply #3 on: June 15, 2020, 06:27:29 am »
Asked and answered really.

The control line means the test was working, the sample size was sufficient.
No HIV testing was specifically needed, you did anyway and the result as expected was negative. It's simple you did not acquire HIV from the encounter.

No obvious risk and a negative test result.

Continue to use condoms for any intercourse, no exceptions and test out of routine at least yearly for STI's & HIV.
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