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Offline Aljo1987

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Scared from encounter
« on: May 13, 2020, 04:46:09 pm »
Hello

Thank you for the amazing work you do here supporting each other. I am male 33y/o from UK

I am really scared of testing and was wondering if you could help

1. Is it true that it is rare for transmission of HIV from sexual intercourse  female to male?

2. I Visited sex worker  twice and received from what I remember unprotected handjobs on two separate occasions with two different women?

3. Is the Biosure test accurate as gum clinics are closed I am thinking this is the only way I can test - I have not had sexual intercourse until recently and Iím scared Iíve convinced myself Iíve got HIV from the sex workers (point 2) and passed it onto my new girlfriend?

4. Is being this scared normal I.e. I feel like I canít carry on and is this heightened anxiety anything to do with hiv or do you see this? I donít think Iíve had any other symptoms other than common cold/flu experienced

Please help Iím so scared and feel like my life is over as I am so convinced!

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Re: Scared from encounter
« Reply #1 on: May 13, 2020, 05:01:06 pm »
Hiya,

Sorry to hear that you are stressing.

2.
Getting a handjob is no HIV risk to you whatsoever, it lacks all the conditions and exposure needed for you to acquire HIV and there is zero need to test for HIV over a handjob.

You did not acquire HIV from a handjob, that much is certain!

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Rare, No. Although, it is somewhat easier for the receptive partner to acquire HIV during intercourse.

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my new girlfriend?

If you had condomless intercourse with the GF then this would be the only HIV risk to you mentioned so far. You can test with the bio-sure at 13 weeks post last exposure for a reliable negative result.

Remember to use condoms to reduce your HIV risks and as you are sexually active to test at least yearly out of routine for easier to acquire STI's and HIV.

4. No.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Scared from encounter
« Reply #2 on: May 13, 2020, 05:19:02 pm »
Hello Jim, thank you so much for your super speedy reply!

That has definitely eased my concerns Iíve built in my head of having contracting HIV through the 2nd point which was my main concern for testing right now. however I shall put this behind me and move on

Thank you and god bless

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Re: Scared from encounter
« Reply #3 on: May 13, 2020, 05:33:11 pm »
You're welcome and I am glad you are feeling more at ease.


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Re: Scared from encounter
« Reply #4 on: May 14, 2020, 07:34:27 am »
Hey Jim,

I was feeling cool after your advice but now Iím stressing out again about the csw time as I suffered from flu like symptoms about 8 weeks after this.

There is absolutely no way Iíve got hiv from these handjob visits even if their hands were dripping in vaginal fluid for lube!?!?

Do I need to run out and get a test!? 

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Re: Scared from encounter
« Reply #5 on: May 14, 2020, 07:57:05 am »
Hiya,

Sorry to hear that.

Look HIV is fragile and once exposed outside the confines of the human body the receptors used to infect corrode. Also, HIV cannot reproduce outside a human host.

All in all, HIV transmission is always a biological event and four conditions need to be present simultaneously for HIV transmission to occur even in theory: The virus must be present in an infectious bodily fluid from the HIV positive person, it must be present at sufficient levels to cause infection. There must be an effective route of transmission, and it must reach susceptible cells in another person.

Getting a handjob does meet all the conditions needed for acquiring HIV regardless of what fluids she had on her hand.

So no HIV risk from this activity, no test needed, you simply did not acquire HIV from this event.



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my new girlfriend?

If you had condomless intercourse with the GF then this would be the only HIV risk to you mentioned so far. You can test with the bio-sure at 13 weeks post last exposure for a reliable negative result.

Remember to use condoms to reduce your HIV risks and as you are sexually active to test at least yearly out of routine for easier to acquire STI's and HIV.

Your only HIV risk as pointed out would be if you engage in condomless sex, as in intercourse with your partner. This would meet all the conditions needed for you to acquire HIV.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in condomless sex, it's often based on trust within a relationship or past test results. However, just note this trust or past results does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk towards you of acquiring HIV.

If you want to reduce your HIV risks use condoms and consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP. Finally, remember to test at least yearly out of standard routine for HIV and far easier to acquire STI's.

Jim
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