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Offline Veryworried12345

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Very worried and need your guidance
« on: May 10, 2020, 01:43:22 pm »
Hello Jim and all moderators,

Thank you in advance for your help. I need it.

I am a 45 yr old male, hetero. I just had testing done this past Friday (May eight) for all stiís including HIV. I had two exposures:

1) jan 15/2020: I was with a female. I watched her masturbate while I masturbated myself. She then gave me a handjob, and used massage oil (looked like a plain plastic squeeze bottle, no branding or text of any kind on it). I watched her stroke me and rub the head of my penis with the oil using the same fingers she used to masturbate herself. That was everything. No oral. No intercourse.

2) feb 4/2020: I was with a woman. We deep kissed, about 20 min. She gave me oral for about 15-20 seconds. I then gave her oral for about 15-20 seconds. I stopped the encounter after the oral. No intercourse. I am not circumsized and I have Balanitis on my foreskin and head of penis.

I realize you do not look at symptoms however, exactly 11 days after my second exposure, I had incredible abdominal pain, liquid diarrhea (as in I couldnít even make it to the bathroom), very weak/fatigued. This lasted for 1.5 days. I have been going crazy, I know I shouldnít have but I googled a little to much about ars occurring between 7-14 days typically. I want to hope this was food poisoning as I was at a party that day and ate a cutlet sandwich that was left out for about 3-4 hours. I just never get sick...my stomach is a rock and I never ever get the flu. This has me very scared.

Questions:

1) my receiving oral, was my balanitis a concern?

2) my giving oral...she was extremely wet, Like nothing Iíve seen before. From Your other posts I know this comes from the bartholin glands which do not contain large amounts of hiv, same as saliva. However, doesnít the cervix release vaginal fluids that are high in hiv...and canít these fluids travel up to the opening of the vagina where I was licking? Also, I was in there very deep with my tongue, almost sucking her like a vacuum, almost drinking her fluids. I canít imagine air getting inside to help stop the hiv from being infectious. I was simply disgusted in my behavior and thatís why I stopped.

3) were my symptoms similar to ars symptoms...did my symptoms sound more like flu symptoms or food poisoning symptoms? Doesnít ars last longer than 2 days?

Please help me and advise.

Thanks

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Re: Very worried and need your guidance
« Reply #1 on: May 10, 2020, 01:58:06 pm »
Hiya,

1, No
2, No and irrelevant.
3, Irrelevant

If this was your only sexual encounter then relax and, move on with your life. No need to test for HIV outside of standard yearly routine.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Offline Veryworried12345

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Re: Very worried and need your guidance
« Reply #2 on: May 10, 2020, 03:10:17 pm »
Thank you for the quick response Jim. I accept your assessment. I truly respect what you do to help others during their troubled and anxious times. I am at a very low point in my life and somehow your brief words made me feel better...Thank you.

Iíve read enough from your posts to realize Iím just not educated whatsoever in HIV transmission. I do not have much of a sex life but is it Safe to take from this that only unprotected vaginal/anal intercourse are HIV risks? everything Iíve read about a man ďreceivingĒ fellatio and giving cunnillingus being a risk is BS and just scare tactics?

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Re: Very worried and need your guidance
« Reply #3 on: May 10, 2020, 03:20:28 pm »
everything Iíve read about a man ďreceivingĒ fellatio and giving cunnillingus being a risk is BS and just scare tactics?

Can't and not going to comment on what BS you read online. Plenty of sites that claim nonsense hence in part people fear toilet seats and shaking hands, total bullshit.

Anyhow getting your penis sucked lacks all the conditions required for acquiring HIV,  thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's there hasnít been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked") and you will not be the worlds first.

Same can be said about the cunnilingus.

So if this was your only sexual activities than HIV is not a concern, hence no need to test for HIV outside of standard yearly routine unless you have had other sexual contacts/activities.

Jim

PS HIV doesn't care that you identify as hetero, as you mentioned it, I thought I would just mention this.

« Last Edit: May 10, 2020, 03:36:06 pm by Jim Allen »
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HIV 101
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HIV Testing
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HIV TasP
You can read about HIV prevention here:
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Read about PEP and PrEP here
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Offline Veryworried12345

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Re: Very worried and need your guidance
« Reply #4 on: May 12, 2020, 08:58:17 pm »
Hi Jim,

I just wanted to say thanks again for what you do. Reading so many of the posts from yourself and all others moderators really helped me through the last couple of months. As you assessed my encounters as no risk...I had already tested. I received a call from the dr today that all tests came back negative. Iíve donated to AIDS organizations in the past however I will be making a recurring monthly donation to my local organization moving forward.

All the best

 


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