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Author Topic: Jgrizzly - Intro: Has anyone ever messed up and told someone they shouldn’t of?..  (Read 480 times)

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Offline Jgrizzly

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I’ve been positive for a couple years now and one of my biggest regrets is telling people I had it because I wanted to beat the stigma and show people they could overcome it. I live in a small town and so far it’s been 50/50 most people have forgotten by now but their are some that when they get mad they throw it up. I’ve recently started downplaying it and saying that it was a rumor because their is t any record of me admitting it so it’s worked. I COULD REALLY USE SOME HELP!!!

Offline harleymc

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You haven't made a mistake,they have.
If  anyone gives you grief let them no in no uncertain manner that nobody likes an evil doing gossip and that you wouldn't miss on them if they caught fire.

Offline Jim Allen

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Welcome to the forum and, sorry to hear that you are having a rough time.
What do you mean with when they get mad they throw it up? Why are they getting mad?

Anyhow, I live in a relatively small town less than 8.000 people. Everyone knows or could potentially know my HIV status since I don't keep it a secret, my picture ect is online, I've been on the radio, I have done fundraising etc ...

Ultimately you can't control somebody's reaction to knowing your HIV status, or what they do with that information. You can only control your reaction when someone brings it up and to be honest if someone feels it's their business or that it's somehow it's a problem that then is their issue, not yours.  Being calm, informative and questioning when someone says or does something stupid normally works fine for me, don't let it get to you.

Anyhow sorry to hear you have regrets and issues from telling people.

Best, Jim
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