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Offline Worriedbad1

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Insertive fellatio, protected (or not ) vaginal intercourse
« on: February 13, 2020, 10:35:57 pm »
I had insertive fellatio from a CSW breifly followed by what I think was protected intercourse for about 20 minutes. The condom didn't fit all the way down I think it was just 3/4 way down my shaft. I didn't ejaculate inside her and was still erect when I pulled out. I then pulled off the condom (I think it was slightly rolled up but not exposing the head) it wasnt damaged. I'm worried that if at all my foreskin may have been exposed during intercourse but I could just be overthinking this. She then proceeded to suck my penis and use her hands to make me ejaculate for a few more minutes.

We did some deep kissing in the process too. I didn't really check to see if she had any bleeding in her mouth and didn't notice any traces on my penis. I some times have bleeding gums. 

About 12 hours later I was involved in unprotected sex with my wife. I'm terrified that if my encounter with the sex worker has infected me, I may have infected my wife who is breastfeeding at the moment. How are my chances looking for HIV?  It's only been 11 days and I'm panicking thinking i could ruin our babies life. Please help.

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Re: Insertive fellatio, protected (or not ) vaginal intercourse
« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2020, 01:29:15 am »

You are overthinking certain aspects of this, prehaps it's guilt or something.

Kissing is not an issue, getting your penis is not an HIV risk, nobody has ever been infected that way and the condom being 3/4 down the shaft is not a concern either. HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious to the insertive partner. All in all, there is no reason to be stressing about intercourse as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

unprotected sex with my wife

Obvious perhaps, but nobody here is going to tell you unprotected sex is not an HIV risk to you. Unprotected intercourse with your partner would meet all the biological conditions needed for you to acquire HIV.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, it's often based on trust within a relationship or past test results. However, just note this trust or past results does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk towards you of acquiring HIV.

Test regularly for HIV and far easier to transmit STI's.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP going forward as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other easier to transmit STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

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