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Author Topic: Should I get PEP???? Please read if you don't mind  (Read 315 times)

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Should I get PEP???? Please read if you don't mind
« on: February 07, 2020, 09:05:40 am »
Yesterday afternoon I engaged in a Grindr hookup. the guy was 22 and states he is negative, tested in November with no unprotected sex since, though this was the first time I met the guy so I take anything he says with a grain of salt. He performed oral on me (very deep into his throat) for a total of 10 minutes probably, and then I performed oral on him for approximately one minute. I then proceeded to anally penetrated him with lube and condom and came inside the condom while inside him. I filled the condom with water after I finished to ensure no water leaked, notating that the integrity of the condom was not compromised and there was no water leakage. However, when I wiped my penis, I noted that there was what looked to be fecal matter on it. I am unsure of where it came, but it got me worried in that what if his rectal fluids also got under the condom and reached my urethra, as I know that could be a potential mode of transmission of HIV. Should I get PEP? My insurance would cover it. And I got a prescription for it as I went to the Urgent Care to get tested in general (not for this latest encounter).
TLDR; He gave me super deep head for 10 mins, I gave him head for one minute, then topped him with a condom and lube but found fecal matter on my penis when I wiped it after removing the unbroken condom, so I am worried rectal fluid reached my urethra. Indication of PEP?

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Re: Should I get PEP???? Please read if you don't mind
« Reply #1 on: February 07, 2020, 10:09:03 am »
That's a lot of fears and what if's, ill break them down and address them.

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the guy was 22 and states he is negative, tested in November with no unprotected sex since,

Irrelevant, even if what he claims is true all it means is he was negative in Aug 2019. Simply presume they are unknown to themselves living untreated with HIV and protect yourself.

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He performed oral on me (very deep into his throat) for a total of 10 minutes probably, and then I performed oral on him for approximately one minute.

Receiving a blowjob is no HIV risk to you whatsoever.  It lacks all the conditions required for acquiring HIV,  thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's there hasnít been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked") and you will not be the worlds first.

Giving a blowjob, generally speaking, the mouth simply lacks route (Cells to infect) for HIV, and even if there was damage to your mouth (inside your mouth) as in gaping open sores like meth mouth creating a possible route than saliva & air also act to neutralize HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells.

All in all, giving a blowjob is such a minute concern with regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over it. Just get tested whenever you are next normally due a routine check-up.

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I then proceeded to anally penetrated him with lube and condom and came inside the condom while inside him.

HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious to the insertive partner. There is no reason to be stressing about intercourse ss long as this obvious issue did not happen.

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I filled the condom with water after I finished to ensure no water leaked, notating that the integrity of the condom was not compromised and there was no water leakage.

Why? ... There is no way or need for you to "test" condoms

If you test the condom before you use it this can weaken the condom, making it more likely to break during use. So don't and, also never test a condom after you use it either. Instead, immediately dispose of the condom in the bin.

Testing the condom after intercourse could damage the condom, as it's not designed as a reusable (re-stressed) product and this could lead you to mistakenly think that the condom was damaged during sex, when in fact you actually caused the damage after the intercourse by trying to "test" it with water. In short, testing the condom yourself before or after use is not a reliable way to tell you anything.

Testing condoms yourself is basically a step shy of paranoia if you ask me. Instead, use condoms correctly and consistently.

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However, when I wiped my penis, I noted that there was what looked to be fecal matter on it. I am unsure of where it came, but it got me worried in that what if his rectal fluids also got under the condom and reached my urethra, as I know that could be a potential mode of transmission of HIV.

So you are worried that HIV crawled down your shaft, past the condom, then back up your shaft on the inside of the condom all the way to the tip and finally into your penis? No, it did not happen and if it did it would not be an HIV concern.

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Indication of PEP?

Not from what you posted. So far not even testing would be warranted outside of normal standard routine.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP going forward as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other easier to transmit STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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