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Terrified of risk - oral sex
« on: January 26, 2020, 09:13:47 am »
Hello,

So on the 4th January I received unprotected insertive oral sex from a guy. It lasted about 10 minutes and I came in his mouth. He told me he was HIV negative but you can never be sure, he could have been lying for all I know so Iím just gonna assume heís positive.
Iím so scared that I might be at risk of HIV. I know it sounds stupid and the risk is so low but Iím worried I might be the first person in history to be unlucky and get HIV from this. There were no obvious cuts on my penis and as far as I know I didnít see any in his. But he did have a lip piercing so Iím scared that he might have been bleeding in his mouth with his piercing and then spread that to me. Iím so scared, I donít know what to do: itís been 3 weeks now, and Iím so anxious.

I have noticed on my face I have a few spots but I canít tell if itís just spots or if itís a HIV rash, Iím scared itís a HIV rash. Iím so terrified, I also have joint pain and my tongue is white so Iím scared it might be oral thrush.
May I add - this blowjon was my first, and only ever, sexual encounter. And Iím terrified that this stupid decision may cause me to be given HIV for the rest of my life.

If I get tested should I go 4 weeks after I was at risk? And should I go again at 3 months? Iím so terrified

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Re: Terrified of risk - oral sex
« Reply #1 on: January 26, 2020, 09:32:52 am »
Hiya,

Getting your penis sucked is not an HIV risk for you. None! If this was your only sexual activity then HIV is not an issue.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP going forward as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other easier to transmit STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Terrified of risk - oral sex
« Reply #2 on: January 26, 2020, 11:05:18 am »
Thank you, Iím just scared that the risk is still there. Should I still go and get tested?

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Re: Terrified of risk - oral sex
« Reply #3 on: January 26, 2020, 11:46:01 am »
Hiya,

Look fears are not facts. You had no exposure, no HIV risk from the activities posted here, so stop letting irrational fears control you.

If you can't control your fears then consider speaking to a therapist.

Best, Jim
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Re: Terrified of risk - oral sex
« Reply #4 on: January 27, 2020, 03:47:16 pm »
Hi,
I know you said my risk is low but Iím so terrified. Today I woke up with a really bad headache, fever and lots of sweating. Iím worried I have HIV

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Re: Terrified of risk - oral sex
« Reply #5 on: January 27, 2020, 03:57:55 pm »
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Hi,
I know you said my risk is low but Iím so terrified. Today I woke up with a really bad headache, fever and lots of sweating. Iím worried I have HIV

I never said low risk, where do you get that idea from? Not from me as it would be dramatic, inaccurate and if I had said that I could be accused of scaremongering, in addition to it being far from the truth.

In red below what I said:

Hiya,

Look fears are not facts. You had no exposure, no HIV risk from the activities posted here, so stop letting irrational fears control you.

If you can't control your fears then consider speaking to a therapist.

Best, Jim


Look I am sorry to hear you are feeling unwell, however, you did not acquire HIV from getting your penis sucked - End of story! If this was your only sexual activity in life then HIV would not be a concern.

See you doctor and treat whatever is making you sick instead of stressing about it.
I do hope you feel better soon.

Remember to use condoms no exceptions for any intercourse and to test out of standard routine at least yearly for STI's & HIV

Best, Jim
« Last Edit: January 27, 2020, 04:01:01 pm by Jim Allen »
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Re: Terrified of risk - oral sex
« Reply #6 on: February 07, 2020, 02:20:32 pm »
Move on with your life, unless there are other sexual encounters and different sexual activities you wish to discuss not already mentioned here.

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Look I am sorry to hear you are feeling unwell, however, you did not acquire HIV from getting your penis sucked - End of story! If this was your only sexual activity in life then HIV would not be a concern.

See you doctor and treat whatever is making you sick instead of stressing about it.
I do hope you feel better soon.

Remember to use condoms no exceptions for any intercourse and to test out of standard routine at least yearly for STI's & HIV

Best, Jim
« Last Edit: February 07, 2020, 02:26:08 pm by Jim Allen »
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