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Condom slip during sex
« on: December 22, 2019, 04:33:42 am »
Hi there my name is Amir i need you're help about Hiv question.
Since this accident i havenít eaten well i feel like i want to suicide myself i admit myself i have hiv i dont talk to anyone anymore  i got huge depression i need some advise..


My last test was on 2018 before this accident
i see different Escorts every month or every two weeks all of them are always protected sex and protected oral
 
One encounter my condom went inside the escort when i check my penis there was no more condom on me so i stopped the intercourse without ejaculation than we put new condom than i finish the job with the new condom.
 
 
My question is what are my possibilities to become infected with hiv? lets assume  the girl was hiv+ and my penis came contract with her vagina sorry for inappropriate words
 
My last test were Hep C Ab,HIV Chlamydia,gonorrhoeae and trachomatis where negative
and i am vaccine for Hepatitis A and B
« Last Edit: December 22, 2019, 04:37:56 am by amirtava »

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Re: Condom slip during sex
« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2019, 05:06:55 am »
Hiya,

Sorry to hear about how you are feeling and the depression.  You are not alone, however, plenty of people have been there, recovery from depression is possible with the right tools and support and you shouldn't be afraid to reach out for help.

First port of call is your doctor and don't be afraid to let them know how you are feeling, they are there to help and if you feel you might hurt yourself please don't wait but go to a hospital.

Regarding your HIV risk, if I understand correctly the condom came off completely at some stage during the intercourse no longer covering the head of your penis? If so that is an HIV risk, although, not a major one to you and the good news is that until the came off it would have been protecting you, also as you were the insertive partner it would be less risky than being the receiving partner as an example.

Still, as it was a potential HIV risk so test at 6 weeks post-incident with an approved blood-drawn antibodies test and confirm your negative HIV status, these result will rarely ever change and if you wish for peace of mind you can retest at 3 months post-encounter for a definite negative result over this incident.

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My last test was on 2018 before this accident

Not very relevant at all, but regardless of incidents or not as you are a sexually active adult, it's highly recommended you test at least yearly out of standard routine for HIV & easier to transmit STI's

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.  Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV prevention going forward.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV might still pose a risk for transmission of other far easier to acquire STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Condom slip during sex
« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2019, 02:13:35 pm »
hi there thank you for your quick reply i just want to let you know something i ask this question in asha forum, medhelp forum, smartsexsource forum and also helpaidsvancouver forum all of them said it is a low risk. sorry im advertising other sites.

Also another question i have could please tell me how hiv is transmitted?
is it true hiv shows no symptoms? this accident happen 8 months ago i have no pain no bad symptoms.
 

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« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2019, 02:30:23 pm »
You're welcome.

Look not to be rude but being direct about it I simply don't give two flying :-X what other sites say. The fact you have been asking so many says more to me about your anxiety levels at the moment than anything else, I am sorry and hope things are better soon.

The risk assessment I gave you was based on the fact the incident mentioned met all the biological conditions needed to acquire HIV, and it's a documented risk. I also explained it was not a big risk and I gave you details around that, however, to know your HIV status you should test and also start testing more routinely.

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although, not a major one to you and the good news is that until the came off it would have been protecting you, also as you were the insertive partner it would be less risky than being the receiving partner as an example.

Still, as it was a potential HIV risk so test




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Also another question i have could please tell me how hiv is transmitted?

In what sense?

Let me know if this answers your question - HIV transmission is always a biological event and biologically, four conditions need to be present simultaneously for HIV transmission to occur even in theory:

- The virus must be present in an infectious bodily fluid from the HIV positive person
- It must be present at sufficient levels to cause infection.
- There must be an effective route of transmission
- It must reach susceptible cells to infect

If you mean what happens within the cell and how HIV infects the cell, then you could check the 6 steps in the HIV Life Cycle, it's an easy to digest version https://www.poz.com/basics/hiv-basics/hiv-life-cycle

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is it true hiv shows no symptoms? this accident happen 8 months ago i have no pain no bad symptoms.

The vast majority of people will have no symptoms initially. Only testing can tell you what your HIV status is.

Look HIV is a very manageable condition with treatment and not a show stopper to leading a long, healthy and "normal" life.  Since it's been 8 months I recommend you test so you can move on with your life whatever the outcome and stop stressing about it.

Jim
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Re: Condom slip during sex
« Reply #4 on: December 22, 2019, 08:51:59 pm »
Thanks for your answer please bare with me. Another question i had about my encounter i did a threesome with two escorts we showered together i kiss both of them maybe one time or two time on the lips than we went to bed they put condom on me both of them give me oral than i continue to have intercourse only with 1 of them am i at risk for hiv?

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« Reply #5 on: December 22, 2019, 09:04:46 pm »
Showering, kissing, getting a BJ is not an HIV concern.   

As for the intercourse, if this was the same encounter as the condom issue, I've already said that the good news is that until the condom came off it would have been protecting you, also as you were the insertive partner it would be less risky than being the receiving partner as an example. Still, as the condom coming off during the intercourse was a potential HIV risk do test

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« Reply #6 on: February 12, 2020, 03:51:03 am »
Hi there im a young 26 years old heterosexual male person. Each time i have sex i always wear condom for oral and intercourse i never had anal sex. all of this actions are taken place with high end females sex workers  by appointment only or by walks ins who always uses protection with their clients and they are legal in Vancouver BC.

One Encounter really made me stress about my health life is that my condom slip during the intercourse without ejaculation she took the condom out of her she puts new one than we continue is this a risk for hiv? I AM REALLY WORRIED ABOUT THIS

2) another encounter i had. was a threesome escort for first time they give each other oral in 69 position i was only watching the than i start to  having sex with one of the ladies. my condom didnít slip this time i forgot to tell you about this in my las post. Am i at any risk of this? for hiv?

Please somone help me i have no more motivation im depress not working anymore i need help with someone about hiv consulting sometimes i want to throw myself out of bridge because im to sacred to do hiv+ might come positive please help me what are my riks? sorry for bad wnglish.
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« Reply #7 on: February 12, 2020, 04:22:41 am »
Hiya,

I am really sorry to hear I'm sorry you're in so much pain.

All I can tell you is there are other people who have been there, stressing about HIV even though no stress is warranted, the thing is recovery from this stressful situation is possible and you shouldn't be afraid to reach out for help. Go to your local ER if you feel you might hurt yourself, if not then talk to your doctor about therapy to help you cope.

Regarding HIV as said before, you had a low risk from the condom incident, and if you are worried then test and know your HIV status so you can put this stress & worry behind you.

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As for the intercourse, if this was the same encounter as the condom issue, I've already said that the good news is that until the condom came off it would have been protecting you, also as you were the insertive partner it would be less risky than being the receiving partner as an example. Still, as the condom coming off during the intercourse was a potential HIV risk do test

2) Not an HIV risk.

Best, Jim

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« Reply #8 on: February 12, 2020, 04:51:47 am »
Jim to be honest i want to clean myself no more watching adult movies none masterbation anymore sorry for bad words do you think i have a third chance to clean myself? i have done 3 time full std tests they were always negative. i dont want to see escorts anymore they make me anxiety since my condom slipage

my brother always supported me to have sex with escorts he told me use safety all the time and get checked and dont kiss them on private parts be safe 

do you believe i can become clean and test negative?

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« Reply #9 on: February 12, 2020, 05:00:58 am »
I have no idea what you mean you mean with clean yourself. Having sex does not make you dirty, it's perfectly normal and can be very healthy both physically and mentally.   

Not to be harsh but your brother sounds silly.

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So you tested after the condom incident and the result was negative correct?
If so great, move on with your life. Seek face to face support from a therapist to help you cope with your thoughts.

Continue to use condoms for any intercourse and test out of standard routine at least yearly for STI's & HIV.

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« Reply #10 on: February 12, 2020, 05:11:47 am »
yes to clean myself, sorry for confusion my test was before this accident im still to scared for hiv? another thing is the new virus coronavirus can be sexually transmitted?

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« Reply #11 on: February 12, 2020, 06:03:04 am »
Hiya,

I still don't understand what you mean to clean yourself.

Anyhow the Coronavirus ...  Look currently, it seems the primary path of transmission is virus-laden droplets from an infected person's cough. Coronavirus is rare and there are far more realistic issues that could kill you. Such as Influenza that kills half a million people each year.

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my test was before this accident im still to scared for hiv?

Right, well it was a low risk from the condom incident, and if you are worried then test and know your HIV status so you can put this stress & worry behind you.

Jim
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« Reply #12 on: February 12, 2020, 01:08:57 pm »
sorry another question from your experience of hiv how you see anyone get hiv from one encounter from condom slip or break? someone who is hiv positive?
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« Reply #13 on: February 12, 2020, 01:13:04 pm »
Hiya,

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it was a low risk from the condom incident, and if you are worried then test and know your HIV status so you can put this stress & worry behind you.

Out of kindness, I am going to stop responding and if you keep asking about an event that I've already provided an assesment for it's going to lead to a ban to encourage you to seek face to face support.
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« Reply #14 on: February 13, 2020, 06:26:24 pm »
Jim last thing do you consider this talking to someone about my hiv anxiety? sometimes i read other people posts like one of them got hiv from oral to oral makes me morr anxiety

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« Reply #15 on: February 14, 2020, 01:13:16 am »
Oral as in giving a blowjob would be a minute risk, in your posts you did not mention giving a guy a blowjob. I presume this is because you got a blowjob and gave her oral, already answered it's not an HIV concern and as promised you are getting a ban.

Look overall stop reading stories and mistaking them for facts or thinking it applies to you. I've seen claims of toilet seats, aliens and handshakes but it does not make them true or applicable to every bright light you see at night.

Thankfully stories are just stories, not facts and, there are many reasons why someone would rather not admit to exposure, or simply incorrectly dismiss a real risk without realizing it. Factoring into stories is that being newly diagnosed is difficult enough time on its own, for some its a time of struggling with a deep fear of HIV stigma, social judgment, Isolation & self-stigma and things like sexuality, religion, family, sexual relationships etc might play a role asides from legal fears for some.   

If you keep having these fears consider speaking to a therapist about your anxiety, they can help you learn to cope.  You have had an assessment and there is nothing more I can do for you in this setting.

You had a low risk from the condom incident and if you want to know your HIV status go test, so you can put this stress & worry behind you. Continue to use condoms for any intercourse and test out of standard routine at least yearly for STI's & HIV.

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