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Author Topic: Oral Questions: Piece of Mind Needed  (Read 828 times)

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Offline superscaredcollege

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Oral Questions: Piece of Mind Needed
« on: December 31, 2019, 09:23:09 pm »
I guess my behavior could be described as risky but I never really thought about it until reading and learning more about HIV. I was tested at the very end of November for HIV and was negative. I had only had four sexual encounters after October 24th, because I was very afraid of HIV. I did not get HIV from the first because he only gave me oral, I did not touch him at all. Another was a regular partner who I topped but was protected (he was also on PrEP). The other boy was on PrEP and we did not engage in anal sex at all, only oral, and he did not finish in my mouth. The last one is the one Iím worried about, because he is not on PrEP and says he hookups a decent amount. He topped me once (protected) and another time I gave him a blowjob, in which he finished in my mouth, and I spit it out. I have asked him about his status many times, and he has told me that he gets tested frequently. I did not have any gaping wounds, but had started biting the inside of my lip, as I worried about contracting the virus while being stressed about school. Iíve also heard that HIV can infect through the tonsils. I am afraid that HIV entered me either through the tonsils or the bites, but I am not sure how deep my wounds wouldíve had to been, as it has been said that gaping wounds need to be present for transmission. It is now about four weeks after that experience, and I notice that my tonsils seem a little bit swollen, but have not had a fever, rash, headaches, sore throat, etc, and am not sure whether this could just be a reaction to the weather. I am angry at myself for risking my career and safety for a guy, but want some piece of mind about how big wounds would have to be for transmission. Iíd love some articles to read about the risks. I canít rid myself of this anxiety and I know that Iíll never be able to fully enjoy sex because of this.

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Re: Oral Questions: Piece of Mind Needed
« Reply #1 on: January 01, 2020, 12:43:00 am »
Giving unprotected oral sex to a male is a theoretical risk only if your mouth is full of gaping wounds (as in "meth mouth").

However, unprotected oral sex of any sort can provide the risk for other STD's/STI's.

In short, you did not contract the HIV from the activities you have described in your post (protected sex, active unprotected oral sex without gaping wounds, his biting the inside of your lip).

Please access and read this link to understand how the virus is transmitted:


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