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Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« on: November 08, 2019, 10:31:19 pm »
Good day! I would really like to know your insights regarding my possible risk encounter. I am from the Philippines, by the way.

3 weeks ago, I had an unprotective oral sex with a random guy on Grindr. I asked him if he was safe and he said yes (but I am not sure if he is). Anyways, we started out kissing and I gave him a blowjob. He was also fingering me while I was giving him head. Our encounter concluded with him ejaculating in my mouth and I swallowed it all.

My question is, does swallowing his sperm increases my risk of infecting HIV? I brushed my teeth and had mouthwash before the encounter. As far as I can recall, I have no cuts or lesions in the mouth just 2 wisdom tooths erupting.

I have been very stressed out thinking about this since I swallowed his cum. I will be having my HIV test by next week and I am really afraid that my results might yield reactive.

Hope to hear from you very soon! Thanks!

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #1 on: November 09, 2019, 12:10:12 am »
Hiya,

Look I read your post three times, I think you are overthinking this one, try to relax.

The fingering is not an HIV risk, and as for the BJ & swallowing, generally speaking, the mouth simply lacks route (Cells to infect) for HIV, and even if there was damage to your mouth creating route than saliva neutralizes HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells, air is also a factor and your stomach is also hostile

All in all, giving a blowjob is a minute concern with regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over it. Just get tested whenever you are next normally due a routine check-up.

If this was your only sexual activity since your last routine HIV screening then relax.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #2 on: November 09, 2019, 12:26:39 am »
Thank you for your reassuring reply, Jim. It got me very anxious since most results in Google said that swallowing can increase the risk and that really frightened me. My mind has been in circles since after the encounter.

However I have some follow up questions...

1) Since brushing can tear microscopic or small parts of the gum, is it possible for the semen to reach the bloodstream thru those tears?

2) Let's say the guy I gave oral was positive with HIV and STD. I know I might get STD in oral but is it still a high risk for me to contract HIV?

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #3 on: November 09, 2019, 12:43:15 am »
1) Asked and answered  ;)

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even if there was damage to your mouth creating route than saliva neutralizes HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells, air is also a factor

If you had open bleeding wounds or sores like "meth mouth" it might be a factor although as pointed out even if there was damage to your mouth creating route than saliva neutralizes HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells

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The HIV risk was minute i,e near negligible. Him having an STI does not change how HIV is or is not transmitted and the barriers to transmission.

STI's increasing the risk would factor in if you had a pre-existing STI causing inflammation or sores in your mouth although as pointed out even if there was damage to your mouth creating route than saliva neutralizes HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells

So hence my assessment of giving a BJ is it's minute i,e near negligible HIV risk that does not warrant stressing or testing outside of normal yearly routine. If this was your only sexual activity since your last routine HIV screening then relax.

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #4 on: November 09, 2019, 07:47:53 am »
Thanks for the reply  Jim! I have another question though just to clear out things from my overthinking mind...

Per articles I've read, the virus can be transmitted if your partner has a high viral load and the one doing the oral has open sores or lesions. Let's say the guy I had oral has a high viral load, and I have oral lesions or sores. Is there a great risk for me to contract the virus?

Many thanks again!

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #5 on: November 09, 2019, 08:34:42 am »
No, and asked & answered already.

See when providing risk assessment we always presume the person that people had contact with is living with HIV untreated and has a high viral load.

If this was your only sexual activity since your last routine HIV screening then relax, it was a minute risk that does not warrant any stress or testing outside of standard yearly routine
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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #6 on: November 09, 2019, 09:04:37 pm »
Hi again Jim! Unfortunately this is not my only encounter prior to this one. I had a series of giving oral sex to guys that I've known their status and its either I spit or swallow their cum. This was the only exception. Never had insertive or receptive anal though. Will this increase my risk of getting the virus?

I also asked with our local HIV testing site about the probability of getting HIV thru oral sex and they always point out that there is a possibility of contracting the virus if there are open wounds. And as far as I can remember, I had no open wounds during the encounter but what if there was?

I am really sorry for being so paranoid. It just keeps on buggling in my mind that I might have contracted the virus.  :'(

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #7 on: November 09, 2019, 09:13:21 pm »
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I had no open wounds during the encounter but what if there was?

Asked & answered already s number of times and you can ask me 50 different ways the answer will remain the same ;)

When providing risk assessment we always presume the person that people had contact with is living with HIV untreated and has a high viral load.

Even if you had open bleeding wounds or sores like "meth mouth" it might be a factor although as pointed out even if there was damage to your mouth creating route than saliva & air neutralizes HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells

All in all, it was a minute risk that does not warrant any stress or testing outside of standard yearly routine

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I had a series of giving oral sex to guys that I've known their status and its either I spit or swallow their cum. This was the only exception

Unless you locked these guys up 24/7 for 3 months, then at the end tested them yourself you actually have no factual definite way of knowing their HIV status ... I very much doubt that happened so you simply don't know their status. It's also irrelevant as for risk assessment we simply presume they are positive

Now I do wish you well but there is very little I can help you with, you have been provided a risk assessment and this continued irrational fear is simply not something I'm going to be able to resolve for you over the internet. I recommend considering PrEP in the future for peace of mind as an additional layer against HIV and talking to a therapist about your fears and learning how to cope

I wish you all the best

Jim

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #8 on: November 09, 2019, 09:27:37 pm »
Many thanks Jim! This is very comforting and it has lessen my anxieties.
So it safe to say that even if I had a give a thousand blowjobs to someone who is positive and either I spit or swallow their cum, there is a minumum risk of contacting the virus?

Will try not to think about it as you've pointed out this is not something to be very alarmed. Thanks again  :)
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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #9 on: November 09, 2019, 09:45:13 pm »
Glad to hear that.

The act of giving a blowjob is a minute as in near negligible HIV concern. 5x a near negligible risk per act is still a near negligible risk.

Talk to your heathcare provider provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV and for your peace of mind.

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #10 on: November 16, 2019, 05:04:46 am »
Hi again! I had my test today 4 weeks post exposure and the result came negative. I had a rapid test with Anti HIV 1/2 4th Gen Kit. Is the test conclusive?
Also, I am currently having a sore under my tongue. Is this something to be worried as an HIV symptom?
Many thanks!

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #11 on: November 16, 2019, 07:20:59 am »
Hiya

You had no real world risk or reason to test you know that right? I say this as I don't recommend the merry-go-round of testing outside of yearly routine unless there was a real risk, simply because it's not a good coping strategy to fall into

Anyhow, if you must test at 6 weeks & 3 months post event for a definite result
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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #12 on: November 16, 2019, 08:01:46 am »
Thanks Jim! Just had to since I was really anxious.
How about the sore under my tongue? Is this something I have to worry?

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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #13 on: November 16, 2019, 09:55:47 am »
Hiya,

Sore under the tongue could be many things, but not HIV from this incident.
See your local doctor, to identify the type/cause of the sore and to treat it.#

Best, Jim
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Re: Anxious and Stressed Over Oral Sex Risk Exposure
« Reply #14 on: November 16, 2019, 10:24:48 am »
Thanks for all the replies, Jim! Truly appreciated it!  :)

 


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