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Oral sex with transexual
« on: November 05, 2019, 07:49:58 am »
Hi all, Iím scared to death and cannot think of anything else except that Im HIV positive and that I might have infected my wife. Please assess my risk.

On 10/01 I gave a blow job for a TS girl in NYC, but only maybe for 5 seconds. She also did that to me but for a bit longer.

After 3-4 days I had a sore throat and fever, but only for a day. Then I started having coughing and nasal congestion, but only for a week. After that I started paying attention to: shortness of breath, mild headache, heart pain, chest pain, sweating scrotum. I also had a diarrhoea but only for 1 time. The other thing that I noticed that I started swallowing saliva on much higher frequency.
For the last two days, i have less saliva, no sore throat, but geographical tongue, which I had always, just now it looks more damaged, and coughing.

On 10/31 I tested myself with Insti HIV test which was negative.
But the thing what worries me the most and I cannot sleep is that I might have infected my wife. The reason is that her period started 1 month earlier and she had really bad pelvic pain for 1 day which has never happened before. She drank the night before but not sure if it can make any impact. Im scared to death and I cannot forgive myself for doing such things behind her back. 

Please let me know if you think Iíve been infected.
 It more than a mont

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Re: Oral sex with transexual
« Reply #1 on: November 05, 2019, 10:42:50 am »
Hiya,

Whatever made you sick 3 days after the encounter was not due to HIV, too soon for initial HIV symptoms and outside of that the lack or presence of symptoms can't be relied upon to know your HIV status.

Regarding the concerned encounter, firstly getting your penis sucked lacks all the conditions required for acquiring HIV,  thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's there hasnít been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked") and you will not be the worlds first.

Giving a blowjob, well generally speaking the mouth simply lacks route (Cells to infect) for HIV, and even if there was damage to your mouth creating route than saliva neutralizes HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells.

All in all, giving a blowjob is such a minute concern with regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over it. Just get tested whenever you are next normally due for your routine check-up.

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my wife

I hope she feels better soon but no need to overthink this at all. I will add "if " you have been or are engaging in unprotected intercourse with your partner this would as example meet all the biological conditions needed for acquiring HIV. 

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, it's often based on trust within a relationship, however, just note this trust or faith does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk to you of acquiring HIV.

It would be wrong of me not to point out this obvious HIV risk to you, simply test regularly and at least yearly for STI's & HIV

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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« Reply #2 on: November 05, 2019, 11:32:52 am »
Thank your reply Jim. Few more questions-
I have really terrible tongue due to some unidentified infection. Now I think it cam be Chalamydia. I read on the internet that it opens a route to HIV.
Why out of the sudden My mouth became do dry? I have really terrible tongue at the moment, and this is one of the HIV acute symptoms.

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« Reply #3 on: November 05, 2019, 12:01:28 pm »
Hiya,

Dry mouth & infections can happen for many reasons. Instead of stressing about it see your doctor and treat it. So far none of your symptoms have been related to HIV regardless of your status.

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I read on the internet that it opens a route to HIV.

It doesn't change the assessment, neither can you diagnosis an STI like that yourself through the internet.

Try to relax, I am not sure what has you triggered about this event, guilt perhaps who knows but if you had gaping holes in your mouth the assessment would not change either, near negligible risk from giving a BJ + My comment regarding any other sexual activities like with your wife.

Best, Jim
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« Reply #4 on: November 05, 2019, 12:22:09 pm »
Jimmy!

The symptoms 3 days after the encounter were too soon to be HIV related from that event. In addition, most of what you posted could be anything and if you had these symptoms due HIV seroconversion you would have tested positive already on the 30-day test you conducted.

Ultimately as said the lack or presence of symptoms can't be relied upon to know your HIV status. Most people have no symptoms initially or none noticeable.

The HIV risk from the encounter was near negligible and unless you have meth mouth or similar damage to your mouth that assessment is not going to change. The only real-world risk for HIV mentioned so far would potentially be from your partner.

I do hope you feel better soon, talk to your doctor and treat whatever has been making you sick. Stop googling it and finally, remember to start looking after yourself by using condoms for any anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward and test out of standard routine at least yearly for HIV & STI's
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« Reply #5 on: November 05, 2019, 12:43:48 pm »
Thank you once again for your prompt response!
I know that initial illness was too soon and it could be cold, but all the other symptoms that came after are a bit suspicious!
The person I was with asked if Iím clean ( I know you dont like this word, but I just say what I was asked) so maybe I should think she was also clean. The symptoms that worried me was that very mild headache for 4 days, shortness of breath, tongue uclers. And the last thing what got me worried the most is the early painful menstrual cycle of my wife. I read that ARS affect frequency when cd4 is low and high virus load. I cannot sleep normally for las5 days. Im planning to buy another INSTI rapid test hy the end of this week. If all is good at the end im going to make a tatto not to make this mistake again and be faithful.

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« Reply #6 on: November 05, 2019, 01:07:32 pm »
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all the other symptoms

As said:

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if you had these symptoms due HIV seroconversion you would have tested positive already on the 30-day test you conducted.

Ultimately as said the lack or presence of symptoms can't be relied upon to know your HIV status. Most people have no symptoms initially or none noticeable.

Now about the below;

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The person I was with asked if Iím clean ( I know you dont like this word, but I just say what I was asked) so maybe I should think she was also clean.[/b])

BTW my GF just said a word to me describing an aspect about you.  ;)

Unlike you, I will not quote her on it as it would be fairly ignorant for me to presume you would be okay, like or accept that in a publicly visible forum.

Goodbye Jimmy, Move on with your life, use condoms and test yearly.

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