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Stress is getting to me
« on: October 29, 2019, 08:21:49 pm »
So about a week ago I had oral I received and brief 10 sec protected anal I was receiving,  no one got off, there was also pretty hard fingering, I woke up 5 days later and had a swollen gland on the side of my neck and Iíve been losing it ever since, just waiting for the fever and stuff to happen. I later met up with the guy and he took a oraquick in front of me and was negative, I have 2 questions. Can nodes swell 5 days post exposure and whatís the chances Iím infected

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Re: Stress is getting to me
« Reply #1 on: October 29, 2019, 09:14:57 pm »
Hiya,

Getting your penis sucked is no HIV concern and regarding the brief intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact condom.

Relax, move on with your life.

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I later met up with the guy and he took a oraquick in front of me

Okay, so he did not have HIV 3 months prior to meeting with you.

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Can nodes swell 5 days post exposure and whatís the chances Iím infected

Nodes can swell for all kinds of reasons, 5 days would be too soon generally for HIV not that it matters as what you posted did not stand out as an exposure to start with, simply see your doctor and treat whatever is making you sick.  I hope you feel better soon.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP going forward as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other easier to transmit STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Stress is getting to me
« Reply #2 on: October 31, 2019, 12:08:22 am »
Thanks Jim, Iíve been reading these forums for years now, I feel like I know so much  about this subject yet I seem to think Iím the exception. I know you get this all of the time but my nodes are still swollen and I canít rest my brain Iím thinking what if this guy got Precum in his hands and it got in me or something I feel like I have it and I canít move on like I said there was pretty serious fingering going on as well idk I feel like Iím losing my shit over this.....

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Re: Stress is getting to me
« Reply #3 on: October 31, 2019, 12:44:36 am »
Hiya,

I'm not sure where fluids on hands as a concern is coming from but let's simply presume for a moment he did get fluids on his hands and run with this.

HIV is extremely fragile once it is exposed outside the confines of the human body to the environment, small changes in temperature, pH/moisture levels and AIR damage the outer receptors that the virus uses to infect human cells and thus renders it unable to infect. Also, HIV cannot reproduce outside a human host.

I'll presume you are concerned he touched you with the fluids on his hands, well, in addition, to the above it would also lack route.

All in all, HIV transmission is always a biological event and biologically, four conditions need to be present simultaneously for HIV transmission to occur even in theory: The virus must be present in an infectious body fluid from the HIV positive person, it must be present at sufficient levels to cause infection. There must be an effective route of transmission, and it must reach susceptible cells in another person.

You did not meet the conditions needed for acquiring HIV from fluids on his hands.

Unless you have had other encounters not mentioned here move on with your life, and ill say it again nodes can swell for all kinds of reasons, simply see your doctor and treat whatever is making you sick. 

I hope you feel better soon.
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Re: Stress is getting to me
« Reply #4 on: November 01, 2019, 08:05:54 pm »
Hey Jim in back :/ this is really making me mad I have good hours and hours of panic, this morning I woke up to a sorta itchy irritated penis, maybe balantis not sure but now Iíve got that and the nodes swollen also my temp stays at a constant 99.2 I donít feel bad so maybe that normal idk. But I canít quit thinking about it. I have a wife and kids that I will lose if I have this and the obsessive future tripping Iím doing is extremely debilitating. I tried to think of anything else I left out. The guy was bi he had a gf too and said he only hooked up twice and both times was with protection I mean he did test negative I keep thinking like damn dude, he probably ainít even got it in the first place but I canít stop being hyper sensitive to my body.... itís crazy man. Idk I just donít have anyone to talk to about it so I fig Iíd hit you up man, you always seem to get me through the night :/

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Re: Stress is getting to me
« Reply #5 on: November 01, 2019, 10:58:42 pm »
Hiya,

Sorry to hear you are feeling unwell but HIV does not make your penis ich and swollen nodes happen for 100's of common reasons. If you don't feel well best see your doctor and treat whatever is making you sick instead of stressing about it.

End of the day no amount of guilt or stress will change the assessment or how HIV is or isn't transmitted.

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I have a wife

Well obvious perhaps, but if I don't point this out it would be wrong. If you have been engaging in unprotected intercourse with your partner this would meet all the biological conditions needed for acquiring HIV.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, it's often based on trust within a relationship, however, just note this trust or faith does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk to you of acquiring HIV. Test regularly, understand your real risks.

Best, Jim 

 
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