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Author Topic: Worried about boob job by sex worker.  (Read 859 times)

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Offline AnxietyGuy1992

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Worried about boob job by sex worker.
« on: August 08, 2019, 08:26:51 pm »
Hello everyone, thank you for all that you do here.

I will start off by saying I have anxiety. Yes, I am seeing a therapist, and yes I will bring this up next time I see her. Unfortunately my anxiety manifests itself as illness anxiety disorder (known as hypochondria previously).

Yesterday in a moment of weakness I hired an escort. I arrived early apparently, as she told me she had a customer in. When I got the go ahead I went up. I laid back and asked if she could give me a handjob with a condom on, because I knew anything else would result in a panic attack. Stupidly, I decided that I wanted to finish by rubbing my penis in her cleavage without the condom. I really wish I had kept it on.

Basically my fear is that somehow the last client finished on her chest, and I rubbed my penis in his semen somehow, and it got into a microscopic cut on my penis. It also kept hitting her necklace.

I know HIV doesnt live long outside the body. Logically, I know I am not infected. Unfortunately, my anxiety means that I can not accept a non zero chance of danger, even if I have to come up with ridiculous scenarios. 78 million people have been infected, yet my brain has me convinced that i will be the first to get it like this. Reading through the other forums about a guy who claims to have been infected by acupuncture didnt help.

My last HIV scare was in 2014 and testing seems to have come a long way since then. Then I had a partner lie and tell me she had HIV as a joke, which was a pretty big trauma.

Anyway I am going to pursue testing for everything for peace of mind. I plan to get a 4th generation test at 4 weeks, then 45 days, and finally at 12 weeks. It's amazing how short the window period is with 4th generation testing.

I know people like me are the bane of your existence but I really appreciate this site and hope it brings peace to many people. Thank you so much.

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Re: Worried about boob job by sex worker.
« Reply #1 on: August 08, 2019, 08:40:37 pm »
Hiya

You already know you had no HIV risk from what you posted here and nothing you mentioned changes that. Microscopic cuts on your penis does not change how HIV is and isn't transmitted.

Stop reading stories and mistaking them as fact or thinking it applies to you, it doesn't. If we go down that route no offence but next you will be telling me that you only had 8 pints at the local pub and suddenly whilst walking home there was a blinding bright light out of nowhere, the next morning you woke up at the side of the road and ergo think it's ET who grabbed you, instead of like the rest of us concluding it was a near miss from an oncoming car ;)

Jim
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Re: Worried about boob job by sex worker.
« Reply #2 on: August 08, 2019, 10:31:39 pm »
Thank you. I know HIV cant survive in semen when exposed to air anyway. The brain is a crazy thing.

Anyway I know HIV is a serious topic and I dont want to make light of it or contribute to any misinformation so thank you for confirming I had no risk. Now I get to admit to my therapist that I got desperate enough to pay for sex  :-\ :-X :-X :-X

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Re: Worried about boob job by sex worker.
« Reply #3 on: August 08, 2019, 10:44:37 pm »
You're welcome

It's not only the air, your concern simply lacks any of the biological conditions required, HIV is merely infectious not contagious as your fears seem to suggest.

Can't comment too much on the morality of sex work, as whatever I say will most likely result in upset emails. So ill avoid that, I will say regarding the therapist whatever you tell them they have heard it before and they are professionals you should be able to trust and be open/honest with, so keep that in mind. That said though if paying for sex really bothers you that much, perhaps avoid lying but leave it out of the story is all I can suggest and stick to having had sex. I know some people have moral concern/judgments with regards to sex work that yet others don't share.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Worried about boob job by sex worker.
« Reply #4 on: September 04, 2019, 07:11:58 pm »
Well I did it again. Only this time i had even less risk. I got a massage today from a tantric massage therapist. No happy ending, only 2 minutes of a back rub before the word STD flashed in my mind and I got up, paid her, and left. Can someone please confirm I had no risk, even if I have pimples on my back?

I've been doing CBT with my psychiatrist and reading the replies last time I posted here has really helped when the irrational thoughts start

I'm so sorry to waste your time. I just want to live a normal life and not be afraid. I could tolerate being afraid after having sex, but if I'm afraid of massages now I dont know what to do 

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Re: Worried about boob job by sex worker.
« Reply #5 on: September 04, 2019, 07:27:34 pm »
Hiya,

You fully know you had no HIV risk from what you posted but to confirm pimples are not an HIV concern. Neither are day to day cuts, scrapes, bumps, spots etc etc etc.

I'm glad you are seeking professional support from a psychiatrist and I wish you well. Keep working with them.
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PEP and PrEP

 


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