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Author Topic: Really worried about Strip Club Experience  (Read 819 times)

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Offline troubleduser

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Really worried about Strip Club Experience
« on: August 05, 2019, 01:09:52 pm »

Recently in the last three weeks I went to a strip club couple of times. This was my first visit to a strip club.During those visits I got lap dances from strippers. I was always fully clothed. Never had my penis exposed out. It was always within the pants and underwear. All I did was press the strippers butt cheeks, thighs and her body. Ocassionally the stripper placed her breast on my face. Never did any kissing the lips or nipples and never touched her genitals or anus. No fingering, and no sex of any kind. During my last visit which was last Tuesday the stripper gave me some aggressive lap dance and grinding but I was always clothed. My question in this forum is that did I have any risk in getting hiv and std due to the lapdances and grinding that I had. I am really worried because two days after my last visit I got two tiny sores under  my tongue and this is really freaking me out. I am scared to kiss my wife or have sex with her. Please advise if all I did at the strip club was no risk event as I did not have any sex. During the lap dance grinding I did feel that my penis was erect but not sure if there were fluid transfers from the stripper genitals to my genitals. Can my palms that I used for touching the strippers body or the cloth that I was wearing can act as a medium to transfer the virus.Should I get tested. I am not able to talk about this to my wife or to my primary care physician. Please advise.

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Re: Really worried about Strip Club Experience
« Reply #1 on: August 05, 2019, 01:51:46 pm »

Read your post, two sores and I suspect a whole lot of fear, perhaps guilt.
Relax, what you posted about the strip club is no HIV risk whatsoever.

Long story short HIV is incredibly fragile, and highly limited thus sexually only transmitted inside the confines of the human body, an example would be during intercourse. Now as for what you posted, vaginal fluid on your lap or hands, her clothing, your clothing, erection, no erection, aggressive rubbing or soft  -  It simply meets none of the biological conditions required for the transmission of HIV.

two tiny sores under  my tongue

See your GP to treat whatever it is before it gets worse, it's not HIV from the encounters posted here.

my wife

Regarding your partner, if you have been engaging in unprotected intercourse or should you reconcile with your partner and do so in the future with your partner than note that this would as meet all the biological conditions needed for acquiring HIV.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, it's often based on trust within a relationship, however, just note this trust or faith does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk to you of acquiring HIV.

Test regularly, understand the risks. 

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

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