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Author Topic: Fearing the worst  (Read 609 times)

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Offline Inevitableoutcome

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Fearing the worst
« on: July 30, 2019, 12:14:41 pm »
Two weeks ago I received very brief oral sex from a stranger.
Thinking this was low/negligible risk I went on.
Shortly afterwards I had ngu symptoms and taking antibiotics right now for that. 

Shortly after I find out this person barebacks and is not on prep. Although it's pointless he claimed he negative and tests often.

I broke down and told my fiance because we have children and I would never want to put their mother at risk for my fuck up.

I'm on the edge of a mental breakdown any information would be helpful.

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Re: Fearing the worst
« Reply #1 on: July 30, 2019, 12:34:02 pm »
Relax, this incident was no HIV risk whatsoever. None!

Getting your penis sucked lacks all the conditions required for acquiring HIV,  thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's there hasn’t been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked") and you will not be the worlds first. This activity was not a low HIV risk, it simply was none. Move on. 

Now his sexual history or HIV status makes no difference to how HIV is or is not transmitted and, i'm concerned you seem to indicate that him taking PrEP would be relevant to you, its not. If he was to claim to be taking PrEP that's nice for him, means nothing to you. The focus should be are the activities you are engaging in a transmission risk for HIV or not, and reducing your own risks by using PrEP, Condoms  etc, understand? I mention it as i am always concerned people are taking and, dismissing risks based on other peoples PrEP claims.

Anyhow, you had no HIV risk from this incident so moving on.

my fiance

If you have been or are planning to engage in unprotected intercourse with your partner this would as example meet all the biological conditions needed for acquiring HIV.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, its often based on trust within a relationship, however just note this trust or faith does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk to you of acquiring HIV.

Test regularly, understand the risks.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards


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