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Offline aleko777

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condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« on: July 24, 2019, 05:08:22 am »
Dear everyone

  on the 13-06-2019 i was with an escort, i am one of her regular clients here in the UK. We started whislt she was on top and when i finished there was no condom to be seen.

  it had disappeared inside her. I panicked but she reassured me that she was not infected and that i was over reacting. Anyways she saw that i was very scared and offered to calm my fears by calling her GP.

  I was still  very scared so she offered me a ride in her car to her GP and printed out her hiv, hep b and heb C tests. which were done a month before our encounter.

  she said that she is very careful and that she has been an escort for 20 years.

 I went to my local GUM and they said that PEP is not neccessary and i should come back on the 12-07-2019.

  I got tested on 12-07-2019 and the bacterial tests came back negative. but the HIV HEP C have yet to come out.

 They usually take 3 - 4 working days and mine are taking over a week.

is that a bad sign?

 What are my chances?

please help

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Re: condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« Reply #1 on: July 24, 2019, 05:15:31 am »
Hiya,

Look her test results are not very relevant.

You did have a potential HIV exposure although, the good news is that until the condom disappeared it would have been protecting you, also as you were the insertive partner it would be less risky than being the receiving partner as an example. 

It would be extremely unlucky to acquire HIV from this event, so try to relax, just test with an approved HIV antibodies test at 6 weeks past for a result, this result will rarely ever change and, testing past this time is generally not needed, although if you wish you can confirm the result for peace of mind at 3 months post-exposure for a conclusive negative.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time,no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

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Re: condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« Reply #2 on: July 24, 2019, 05:51:37 am »
Hi Jim

  Thank you for your informative message.
I am also circumcised and never had unprotected sex before.

My concern is that the lab is taking too long . Could that be a bad sign?

 In the UK they usually take 3-4 working days.

Thanks again

Thanks

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Re: condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« Reply #3 on: July 24, 2019, 05:53:34 am »
You are overthinking this, it's the NHS, they are busy, sometimes things take longer, things take as long as they take.  It does not indicate anything either way

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Re: condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« Reply #4 on: July 27, 2019, 03:48:37 pm »
Hi guys

   I have asked another escort that i know who tests every month she confirmed that she never waited more than a week to get results. I have been waiting for 2 weeks.

  I have tested negative a week prior to exposure.

  Also i have bad oral thrush. And i had diarrhea for a whole week.

  This delay and the oral thrush are really making anxious.

Please help out .

Thanks

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Re: condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« Reply #5 on: July 27, 2019, 04:25:12 pm »
Again overthinking this. Look if you are that concerned call the clinic instead of asking random people you hang out with. Like i said the before the delay does not indicate anything either way, I've seen negative results take longer than this simply due to lab/clinic delays

Now a week before this exposure you tested, meaning 3 months before that you were negative. Perfect, so if this was your only potential exposure since early April 2019 I don't expect your status to change, just make sure to get the test results to confirm it.

Jim

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Re: condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« Reply #6 on: July 28, 2019, 06:32:25 pm »
   yes the only exposure that i had in 2019 was with this escort. She has been an escort for 30  years and she drove me to her GP and printed out her test results.

   i called the GUM clinic on Friday and they said that they sent it to the NHS . but they never replied back to them yet. i received the results of everything else within 3 days and everything was fine. it is only hiv and hep that are taking over 14 days which is extremely strange.

   When you say low risk from female to male. how low is it?

thanks


 

   

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Re: condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« Reply #7 on: July 29, 2019, 03:01:58 am »
Hiya,

It's not extremely strange, you are just extremely anxious. Like I said the before the delay does not indicate anything, either way.  I've seen negative results take longer than this simply due to lab/clinic delays

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When you say low risk

I did not say low risk, I said lower than being the receiving partner as an example.
There are a number of reasons for this including the surface area & route to susceptible cells meaning for the insertive partner, it would be less risky than being the receiving partner.

I rarely give odds as no amount of statistics are going to reflect your individual situation and capture all the variables, so as soon as someone has an exposure that meets all the biological conditions required for acquiring HIV we recommend testing.

That said if you want to know the statistical odds of an insertive partner acquiring HIV during vaginal intercourse is 0.04% (1 in 2,500 exposures)

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Re: condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« Reply #8 on: August 03, 2019, 04:52:56 pm »
Hi Jim

    Just tested negative. You were right. Thanks alot for your help.

  They used a 4th generation test.
Am i now out of the woods?

Want to have intercourse with my regular partner and would like an assessment.

Thanks again

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Re: condom slipped during vaginal with escort
« Reply #9 on: August 03, 2019, 05:14:11 pm »
Hiya,

You're welcome and glad the result was negative, as for testing below is the answer I already gave you and, the answer is not going to change.

It would be extremely unlucky to acquire HIV from this event, so try to relax, just test with an approved HIV antibodies test at 6 weeks past for a result, this result will rarely ever change and, testing past this time is generally not needed, although if you wish you can confirm the result for peace of mind at 3 months post-exposure for a conclusive negative.

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Want to have intercourse with my regular partner and would like an assessment.

I answered this on my first reply to you as well, Use a condom, consider using PrEP
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Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time,no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

if you have been or are engaging in unprotected intercourse with your partner this would as example meet all the biological conditions needed for acquiring HIV. Its the main transmission route globally.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, it's often based on trust within a relationship, however, just note this trust or faith does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk to you of acquiring HIV.

Test regularly, understand the risks.   
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