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Offline angelofdreams

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cheating bf.....
« on: December 29, 2006, 02:26:07 PM »
hey all...

first of all a Merry christmas to all of you...
i hope you all had a great time..

well, mine wasnt to bad all by all
Jack (my bf) and I were invited to stay chrsitmas at my best friends house and his bf ( dean and Steve)...
christmas  day was great... cooking allthe food and ahd a hgreat dinner, we both stayed over and boxingday we went a day out...
in the evening my bf and steve decidet to tell Dean and me they were seeing each other.
the little shit coated in caramel was cheating with my bf friend bf behind my back...
he said they had to much in common and really like each other...
that will teach me having a bf that is also a escort..
still doesnt mean i dont hate the fact i lost the one guy i trusted..
funny thing is that Steve and i had loads of chats about jack and me and our relationship.
basicly i just played straight into his hands...
well, nothing i can do about it at the mometn..
might sound bad from me but i will have my revenge, i know Jack his visa is refused and has to leave the country.. might give him a little hand with it..
i know, it's very rotten form me to do but on the other hadn  he betrailed my trust in the worst possible way.

To live would be a awefully big adventure

Offline koi1

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Re: cheating bf.....
« Reply #1 on: December 29, 2006, 04:06:36 PM »
You know, I know it hurts, but it is better that you know so you don't keep on living a lie. Remember that you ar living with HIV and if you get yourself worked up with anger and depression you are really stressing out your immune system, which is bad with HIV. The other red flag is yeah, it not a good idea to have a professional hooker as your boyfriend.  As liberal as I am, hooking takes the toll on the person and they develop psychological problems. You are better off girl. I would think twice before deporting the other cheater. That is an act of aggression, and I can't tell you that hurting someone has ever made me feel good after the dust settles. The best thing is to learn from it and move on.
I am sorry that Santa brought you infidelity for X-mas, but it is better that way. Don't you dare take him back!

diagnosed on 11/20/06 viral load 23,000  cd4 97    8%
01/04/07 six weeks after diagnosis vl 53,000 cd4 cd4 70    6%
Began sustiva truvada 01/04/07
newest labs  drawn on 01/15/07  vl 1,100    cd4 119    7%
Drawn 02/10/07
cd4=160 viral load= 131 percentage= 8%
New labs 3/10/07 (two months on sustiva truvada
cd4 count 292  percentage 14 viral load undetectable

Offline bravebuddharich

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Re: cheating bf.....
« Reply #2 on: December 29, 2006, 04:33:32 PM »
I hear how hurt you are, but I'd give up on all the revenge fantasies really fast, it won't help at all. You set yourself up for this by getting involved with an escort. I had a brief affair a while back with someone who I didn't know at first was a porn star (still is); it was difficult but I broke things off with him. Once I saw his porn, too, I worried about MY health being compromised by the things he was doing on the side. I've never cheated on anyone ever and never could; perhaps finding someone who will promise fidelity would be better for you. Hope you feel better! (if you lived in Boston, I'd ask you out!) (;

Rich from Boston

Offline Cliff

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Re: cheating bf.....
« Reply #3 on: December 29, 2006, 04:39:28 PM »
Sorry for the issues w/ your bf.  Not sure what else to say, other than I'm sure you'll get through this.  I agree that contacting Home Office about this guy probably isn't going to make you feel any better (long-term).  If he's overstayed his visa, I would assume the authorities would (or should) already know this and if they wanted to come after him they would have done so.

Offline dixieman

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Re: cheating bf.....
« Reply #4 on: December 29, 2006, 05:06:00 PM »
I'm sorry to hear about you situation... move on with your life... living well is the best revenge... thats what I've done! Here's to a new year... sincerely, John

Offline jcmiami

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Re: cheating bf.....
« Reply #5 on: December 30, 2006, 03:11:22 AM »
Well you live and learn and move on...

Offline Eldon

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Re: cheating bf.....
« Reply #6 on: December 30, 2006, 03:22:44 AM »
Yes, I AM Supporting You!

Hey Angel...

I am sorry to hear that this has happened to you. There can be a number of reasons as to WHY this has occured. From what is gathered, out of guilt your BF told you the news in the company of others either as a slap in the face or to situate it where he was not alone with you. In either case, you know where he stands right now and it is up to you as to HOW you will navigate through this Drama.

The main thing is to take care of YOU!

Take care of YOU!

Don't You Dare Give Up... Don't You Dare Give In...

Offline DanielMark

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Re: cheating bf.....
« Reply #7 on: December 30, 2006, 03:49:53 AM »
might sound bad from me but i will have my revenge


Why bring misery down upon a disaster?

Some lessons have to be painful to get our attention. I agree with Rich, seeking revenge will only drag you down and it's no good for your health. When we know better, we make better choices. Now you know better. I'd use that to your advantage next time you get involved.




Offline poet

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Re: cheating bf.....
« Reply #8 on: December 30, 2006, 05:17:35 PM »
Sorry to hear about the Christmas disaster!  I agree with the others that it is better, perhaps, in the long run to know what was really going on and so be able to start your new year with things sorted out, even if the others were the ones who did the sorting without your help. :( 

As for the escort/hooker/rent boy angle, trust me, it's not a factor.  The interactions of porn star with porn star or rent boy with john is a business transaction.  It doesn't involve self, sense of self, much more than inserting things and getting paid.  From experience I can assure you that sex workers are SO over sex that they are the least likely to stray.  They haven't the curiousity of other men.  They 'get' it too much. 

So what you have is what it is and nothing more.  Good luck to moving on in 2007! Best, Win
Winthrop Smith has published three collections of poetry: Ghetto: From The First Five; The Weigh-In: Collected Poems; Skin Check: New York Poems.  The last was published in December 2006.  He has a work-in-progress underway titled Starting Positions.

Offline angelofdreams

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Re: cheating bf.....
« Reply #9 on: January 02, 2007, 05:12:30 PM »
hey all,...
thanks for all the nice wotrds and the support.
i made the decision not to take revenge on him, i have had enough of that already by finding out he is banned for all the gay bars in the town we live in.
he already pisse dof enough barmanagers to get hinmself in that mess.

ps, i will sort of behave myself
To live would be a awefully big adventure


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