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Offline happykid1234

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Sincere advice
« on: May 05, 2019, 11:11:11 am »
Dear members of the forum,

very grateful for kind assistance and advice!

Exactly 8 months ago, I had an exposure with CSW in Austria at a legalised brothel, she put on the condom, and we had sex, first she being on top for a minute and then I on top for a few minutes (~5 minutes). I didn't ejaculate, she then removed the condom and gave a hand-job until I finished.

Concern: When she put on the condom, there was good amount of air at the tip (I am not experienced and my guess is the condom was bigger than the size of my penis), she applied the lube and we proceeded. When she removed the condom, I didn't have a look at the condom at all, since this was my first ever sex at 29, I was stressed and I left immediately, although she made no comments whether it broke or not. A lot of my friends told me with their experience, even when they had such air, it never broke while some other friends told me I should always remove the air.

I had some flu 4 weeks later, some GERD and acid reflux from 8 weeks post this event until now and other symptoms such as low wbc (3.7 instead of 4) and low lymphocytes (1270 instead of 1500) 6 months later, I won't focus on symptoms, given this is pointless. Does my situation warrant testing?

Since this was my first experience, I felt tremendous stress and anxiety which got much better after reading this forum.

Thank you for your genuine help and kind work you guys do for humanity.


Best regards!


happykid1234

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Re: Sincere advice
« Reply #1 on: May 05, 2019, 11:19:49 am »
Hiya,

Relax, nothing you posted was a HIV concern, so if this was your only sexual encounter in life then HIV is not an issue.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time,no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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A lot of my friends told me with their experience, even when they had such air, it never broke while some other friends told me I should always remove the air.

Just on condoms, its simple HIV simply can not transmit through the intact latex or polyurethane barrier and most condom simply fail due to incorrect usage or care. (User error). When they fail during intercourse its obvious, without doubt as in they shred.

Your condom did not fail however leaving air increases the odds it could have had, start using condoms correctly.

So what is correct usage? Well this includes, making sure that whatever the type of condom being used, you only use approved condoms. In other words check for certification mark (FDA, CE, ISO or Kitemark etc.). This means it complies with safety standards. Check the expiry date and make sure the condom is still in date.

When using condoms use lubricant, condom safe water-based lubricants this makes condoms more comfortable and also reduces the risk of breakage. – but avoid oil-based lubricants as they can weaken or break condoms.

As for putting condom on correctly, if incorrectly done it increases the risk of breakage.  Place one on top of the erect penis and pinch the teat at the end of the condom before you start to roll it down the penis. By doing this you’ll squeeze out any air bubbles and ensure there is room for the semen (cum).Roll the condom down to the base of the penis.

If it's on correctly it will roll downwards easily. If you've started putting it on the wrong way or you’re not sure then take it off and try again. Even if you have not   ejaculated (cum) there can still be semen (pre-cum), so it’s important to try again with a new condom. (This is mainly due to other easier to transmit STI's and if with a cis-woman pregnancy risks)

Finally if you are changing the sex act, than change the condom. 
« Last Edit: May 05, 2019, 11:22:21 am by Jim Allen »
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Re: Sincere advice
« Reply #2 on: May 05, 2019, 11:29:07 am »
Hi Jim,

Thanks for your time and advice! You are truely doing great help to people around.

One last comment, I never had a look post sex at the condom since she removed it super fast, I hope I am not repetitive, I guess this was not a concern?  Thanks for all your notes, I learnt a lot from your message today. God bless you!


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Re: Sincere advice
« Reply #3 on: May 05, 2019, 11:38:34 am »
Its not a concern.

Relax already, i'm not sure why this specific encounter has triggered so many "what if's" and "concerns" prehaps guilt or listening too much to your ill informed mates but whatever the reason relax and put this worry behind you ;)

Jim

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