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Messed up. Extremely scared.
« on: March 14, 2019, 11:26:48 am »
Hi Everyone,

Background - I am an european expat living in the middle east, where contracting HIV is a deportable offence, and you can also get jailed for it.

Incident - I hooked up with a CSW recently. We had protected sex. During the act, as we switched positions, the lady kept handling the condom, and because of the amount of lube she had used, the condom was quite wet, and so were her hands from all the handling (with vaginal fluids and lube). After a while, she proceeded to remove the condom with her hands palpably wet with the fluids, and then put some more lube on her hands, and went on to vigorously masturbate me. I am uncut, and because of the amount of lube being used, and the way she was rubbing her hands on the penis head, I'm pretty sure that a lot of the wetness entered my urethral opening.

Aftermath - Exactly 16 days later, I had a mild case of laryngitis, which developed in to a fever (101 F), bad body ache and cough two days later. I met a doctor who prescribed some meds including an antibiotic, and exactly 36 hours later, my fever subsided, and I pretty much recovered from the cough, as well, in a couple of days. However, i still had the body ache, extreme fatigue, and I continued to have the laryngitis. The bodyache disappeared after 4-5 days, but the fatigue continued to stay with me for almost another week. I still continue to have mild laryngitis. Doctors say that I now have pansinusitis, which could be causing the continuance of laryngitis due to post nasal drip. I tried to check for lymph nodes through this entire duration, but I couldn't feel any inflamed/painful nodes, but I am also on the thicker side, and maybe that is preventing me from accessing any of the nodes.

The fact that I had high fever, and I had extreme fatigue for almost 10-12 days, and all of this happened within 3 weeks of my encounter with the CSW has convinced me that I may have contracted HIV. I am a complete wreck. I feel like I have jeopardized my future and have thrown away my life. Was I at risk? Do I need to get tested? If I do have to get tested, I have to leave the middle east, and go back to Europe, because I can't afford to get arrested and deported. Please advise.
« Last Edit: March 14, 2019, 11:32:13 am by distinct »

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Re: Messed up. Extremely scared.
« Reply #1 on: March 14, 2019, 11:31:08 am »
Hiya

You had protected intercourse and a handjob.
Neither are a HIV concern.

So if this was your only sexual encounter there is no logical reason to worry

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Re: Messed up. Extremely scared.
« Reply #2 on: March 14, 2019, 11:34:55 am »
even with her hand wet with the lube and vaginal fluids, and her rubbing the top of my glans, near the urethral opening, quite forcefully? i can't figure why else i would fall sick - i usually am never unwell.

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Re: Messed up. Extremely scared.
« Reply #3 on: March 14, 2019, 11:39:00 am »
i appreciate each and everyone of you helping out here. lack of information is a mind killer, and the forum is a blessing. i am just trying to figure out why there was no risk, as logic suggests that I should be. the lady had her fluids on her hand. she then put lube on top of it, creating enough fluid to enter my urethra. surely, this is a risk? could you please explain for me? sorry, i am forcing the issue. don't mean to be an ass, but i am currently a nervous wreck.

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Re: Messed up. Extremely scared.
« Reply #4 on: March 14, 2019, 11:39:46 am »
Whatever is making you sick it has nothing to do with HIV. Contuine to work on treatment of whatever is making you sick with your doctor.

HIV is fragile and sexually only transmitted inside the confines of the human body . Her fluids rubbing your penis during a handjob is not a HIV risk!
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Re: Messed up. Extremely scared.
« Reply #5 on: March 14, 2019, 11:46:11 am »
Aha...

HIV is also very fragile and difficult to transmit requiring very specific biological conditions/environment. The receptors needed to infect human cells corroded once outside the environment of the human body and this is so much so, that nobody has been infected once it has been exposed outside the human body, either sexually or from day to day contact. On top of this the fluids from her were not a concern to start with but that's another day's work and irrelevant in your case as it's already was no risk for the above reasons

HIV also does not replicate outside of the human host.
So you had no HIV risk whatsoever from this hand job

Use condoms for any intercourse no exceptions and like every sexually active adult test at least yearly for HIV and far easier to transmit STI's out of standard routine

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