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Offline franktheplumber

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What are my chances?
« on: February 25, 2019, 07:01:31 am »
I know that handjobs are essentially viewed as no risk but please hear me out.

I went to a massage parlor which is the type of place nobody goes to for a real massage. Definitely a sex massage place so it was a sex worker I had an encounter with. It was also in China where I think HIV may be more prevalent among sex workers than the US etc.

I got a massage and finished with a handjob. However, I have zoon balanitis and have massive tears in my mucous membrane on my penis. It is pretty painful to masturbate so I don't know what I was thinking. Also, while I was getting my happy ending I put my hand down her pants and she was menstruating. I never came into contact with any blood, just felt her tampon, but maybe there were particles involved.

I touched my penis at the end of the massage with the same hand I touched her tampon with. So to summarise I had open wounds on my penis and I touched the tampon of a sex worker then touched my penis. Also, she may have had blood on her hands as she went to toilet before the start of the massage?

Am I at risk?

Thanks,
Frank

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Re: What are my chances?
« Reply #1 on: February 25, 2019, 07:24:27 am »
Hiya,

I read your post three times, it simply was no HIV risk whatsoever.

Your "what if" concerns about touching herself when using the bathroom and blood Etc, etc well even if this did happened, it simply still would not be a HIV risk.

Forget about it, relax and move on with your life.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV going forward.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

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Re: What are my chances?
« Reply #2 on: August 30, 2020, 02:27:10 pm »
Hey guys,

I had sex with a sex worker and I'm a little concerned. I've had so many experiences with sex workers but something about this one told me she didn't practice safe sex as much as others.

- I didn't have an erection, so I got a handjob until I was 50% erect
- She put the condom on me while I was 50% erect
- We then had sex with my 50% erect penis, her on top
- We changed to doggy style when my penis was fully erect
- After sex I had white foam at base of condom, I think vaginal fluid or from lube
- She removed condom and cleaned my penis with tissue

Things that are on my mind are...

- I think she's very busy, 1 in 1 out, 4 guys an hour maybe?
- I have zoon balanitis (massive abrasions on my foreskin)
- The condom was put on a flaccid penis (this is incorrect usage)

Please let me know if I had a risk and if I should get tested.

Thank you!

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Re: What are my chances?
« Reply #3 on: August 30, 2020, 02:41:58 pm »
Hiya,

4 or 14 guys per hour it's totally irrelevant.

As for your risk, the condom remained on, covering the head of your penis and it did not break during the intercourse so relax and move on with your life.

Contuine to use condoms for intercourse, no exceptions and test at least yealry out of standard routine for STI's & HIV.

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Re: What are my chances?
« Reply #4 on: September 02, 2020, 10:21:05 am »
Hey Jim,

Thanks for your replies, unfortunately they haven't helped my stress levels and I can't move on with my life.

The abrasions and balanitis are really making me question things. I have read that there will be more receptor cells present due to this.

Her vaginal fluid was right at the base of the condom, is there no way this could have found a way in and up my shaft to foreskin? I know this seems unviable but I'm thinking on a molecular level?

What about when removing the condom, which was covered in her vaginal fluid?

Any help will be so much appreciated. I haven't been able to leave my bed all week with worry.

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Re: What are my chances?
« Reply #5 on: September 02, 2020, 12:39:09 pm »
Hiya,

Having more or less receptor cells present doesn't change anything in the situation you posted.

The condom remained on, covering the head of your penis, HIV can't transmit through and intact condom. It did not break during the intercourse so relax and move on with your life.

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What about when removing the condom, which was covered in her vaginal fluid?

HIV is fragile, most the that fluid you saw or felt would not contain HIV and finally sexually HIV is transmitted inside the confines of the human body as in never being exposed outside the body.

Removing the condom after sex is no HIV risk whatsoever and if it was using the things would be pretty pointless and that is simply not the case. http://ec.europa.eu/research/press/2003/pr2010-hiv-en.html

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Her vaginal fluid was right at the base of the condom, is there no way this could have found a way in and up my shaft to foreskin? I know this seems unviable but I'm thinking on a molecular level?

No HIV did not somehow creep past the edge of the condom, back up the shaft and finally inside your penis. Condoms are not that badly designed, also HIV infects through volume and the fluids at the base were not HIV infectious to start with.

Stop reading non-sense or stuff out of context to find a risk you did not have.

End of the day as long as the condom did not break and this would have been obvious there is no reason to stress or test outside of routine. Move on with your life, continue to use condoms for intercourse, no exceptions and test at least yealry out of standard routine for STI's & HIV.



« Last Edit: September 02, 2020, 12:56:54 pm by Jim Allen »
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