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Different Receptive Fellatio Scenario
« on: February 09, 2019, 08:41:04 am »
For my story, I know that you have received tons of questions of this nature, but I really need guidance right now. Please answer my question, I really need an experts guidance since Iím in a foreign country right now studying language, I have no one to go but you guys.

I received an unprotected blowjob from a transgender Thai sex worker and hereís how it goes.

I got into her hotel room, she told me to get my clothes off and rest a little while she was preparing. While she was in the bathroom I heard some sounds like as if she was brushing her teeth but of course Iím not sure, maybe it was something different. Then, before she gave me a blowjob I asked her to show me her teeth and mouth, I didnít see any visible blood or something else. She performed a blowjob on my flaccid penis to make it hard and I suddenly felt warmth in my penis. After 30-45 seconds of blowjob I put a condom on and she continued giving me blowjob, I trusted my penis in her mouth and it was kind of a deep throat. After I ekaculated on her, I asked if she had HIV and any other disease, she told me she has a check up routine every two months and she said she was using vaccine( I donít know what she meant by that because clearly HIV has no vaccine), to make herself clear, she showed me a medication she was using and it seemed like a chewing gum box with some blue pills inside. I asked her again to be sure and she insisted that she didnít have HIV and she was more clean than I am. After this, I immediately took a shower and peed, however, when I come back to my dormitory, I peed again and it was kind of a darkish color, also checked the tip of my penis and under the pee hole I realized the pinky spot under urethra was a little red and a vein kind of visible.

1- Do you think that I put myself in a risk by getting involved in an activity like this and if so am I in a great risk for being infected?

2- what do you think those blue pills might be?

3- I didnít realize there was any visible blood on my penis, do you think that it would be easy to realize that when I got a blowjob?

 I always appreciate what you guys are doing to change the world, thank you for being here for people that need help.

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Re: Different Receptive Fellatio Scenario
« Reply #1 on: February 09, 2019, 09:15:19 am »
Hiya

What she said or not and what medication she takes or not is totally irrelevant!

The activity mentioned simply can not result in aquiring HIV, and met none of the conditions required. End of story!

Relax no need for drama, move on with your life

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP in the future as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Different Receptive Fellatio Scenario
« Reply #2 on: February 09, 2019, 09:24:07 am »
Thanks Jim,

You are right 100 percent, no need to drama.

However, what do you think about my 3rd question? You clearly explained 1st and 2nd and I am glad you did lightning fast.

PS. Let’s say that she’s HIV positive, would this change your answer?

Also, I have a super duper theory, could those blue pills be some kind of prevention against obtaining HIV? Since she is a sex worker who wants to protect herself?

Thanks Jim,

« Last Edit: February 09, 2019, 09:26:52 am by scaredguy06 »

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Re: Different Receptive Fellatio Scenario
« Reply #3 on: February 09, 2019, 09:55:47 am »
3 . Irrelevant

Also clearly you did not listen to me saying it's all irrelevant about what meds she's on as you are asking below again in a roundabout way

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PS. Letís say that sheís HIV positive, would this change your answer?

Also, I have a super duper theory, could those blue pills be some kind of prevention against obtaining HIV? Since she is a sex worker who wants to protect herself?

Thanks Jim,

No because for risk assessments we always presume the other person is HIV positive. Your concern simply is not how HIV is transmitted as explained already.

You might as well be asking me if using the same cup to drink from is a concern ... It's irrelevant and the details you are trying to add to make it a concern simply don't

As for the blue pills it could be Smarties or M&Ms for all you should care as it's totally irrelevant to you !

Jim

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Re: Different Receptive Fellatio Scenario
« Reply #4 on: February 09, 2019, 10:02:52 am »
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before she gave me a blowjob I asked her to show me her teeth and mouth
If you keep treating people like this out of fears and having irrational thoughts about HIV and sex, perhaps you should consider talking to a therapist face to face.

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Re: Different Receptive Fellatio Scenario
« Reply #5 on: February 09, 2019, 10:35:40 am »
Hey Jim,

I am really not proud of myself making her do this and making you kind of angry because I tried to ask a question again.

What I now know is that my adventure was stupid and

1 - I maybe didn't put myself at a risk for HIV but definitely for other STDs that are easily transmitted through Oral sex.

2 - This was a stupid question since those pills might be anything, maybe a chewing gum... sorry

3 - I didn't see blood and try to force her to show me her mouth, I am sorry again but please give this to me Jim since being scared makes us do things that we normally don't.

Thank you for bearing my stupidty. Maybe I am just throwing away my 3rd post but who cares.

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Re: Different Receptive Fellatio Scenario
« Reply #6 on: February 09, 2019, 11:07:59 am »
1.

This is a HIV forum. No HIV risk whatsoever from what you posted.

Indeed activities that are safe for HIV can still be risks for more common and easier to transmit & aquire STI's.  No stress required even for them though, simply like every adult test at least yearly out of standard routine.

2. Yes, could be anything and end of the day whatever it was it's no business of yours and makes no difference to your assessment.

3. Hence my comment to see a therapist. Asking to see her mouth, detailing she brushed her teeth in the assessment etc etc etc it's all irrelevant irrational and if you contuine to have thoughts like this, i mean you well when I say consider a therapist.

They might be able to help you cope with your thoughts

Jim


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Re: Different Receptive Fellatio Scenario
« Reply #7 on: February 15, 2019, 03:29:50 am »
Banned for creating multiple accounts and thinking I would not notice and post removed from duplicate account.

You are not in control of your fears, you allow it to control you and treat people like shit to be frank and stress about what smarties someone eats when it's totally irrelevant to you, and now you are back with more nonsense

I don't know why this encounter has you so stressed, prehaps some form of misplaced guilt ? 

Now I don't know what else you have done in life,  I will presume this was not your first & only sexual encounter.  If I was to take a wild guess I would say prehaps you have a partner and hence the fears, so I'll tell you to protect yourself if you are having Intercourse with anyone else,  use condoms for any intercourse, no exceptions and consider PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV going forward.

As for the BJ, it did not give you HIV. Please understand that HIV can even be found in sweat, tears and saliva however not in levels to infect and not viable copies to infect either! So not a risk to start with and in addition your activities mentioned here are also lacking all the other biological / environmental conditions required for acquiring HIV so it's all rather irrelevant.

We address this time and time again and is not a new issue unaddressed by us as you suggested.

Please consider seeking face to face support from a therapist if you keep having irrational fears and spending you time trying to twisting biology or 1990's studies to find risks or fit your narrative that it fact simply doesn't exist!
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