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Offline Questionsandanswers13

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Oral Concerns
« on: January 26, 2019, 08:17:15 am »

I'm looking for some information in regard to performing oral sex on a guy. In the past, I have given blowjobs to guys without condoms and have always tested negative for any STDs.

More recently, I have discovered that my gums are slightly receding with one part of my gum being slightly detached from one of my teeth. I went to the dentist and was told it's genetic (my father has it too) and to simply get a deep clean every 6 months and be careful when brushing/flossing.

I'm now concerned that as part of my gum is detached from my tooth this would be a direct passage for HIV to enter my bloodstream if I ever performed oral on a guy who happened to be HIV positive. I know there are cases where people have become infected as they had cuts or lesions in their mouths. My gums don't bleed, only part of my gum is detached from a tooth.

I'm now considering asking all guys to wear condoms if I perform oral on them (and know their status before I engage in any sexual activity, of course.) However, I know that not all guys like to wear them during oral.

Basically, I'm wondering if someone could enlighten me about whether I'm needlessly worrying or if part of my gum being detached from my tooth would put me at a risk of getting HIV via oral sex if the guy I performed it on was HIV positive?

I appreciate any insight you could give me. Thank you.

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Offline Jim Allen

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Re: Oral Concerns
« Reply #1 on: January 26, 2019, 08:41:01 am »

Look receding gums changes nothing and unless you are brushing with an axle grinder its not an issue either.  The virus is very fragile, without open bleeding holes in your mouth or "Meth Mouth" as example it simply lacks the cells for HIV to infect and your mouth also has dozens of protein and enzymes that damage the virus and render it unable to infect.

Its such as near negligible HIV concern that we don't recommend testing or stressing over it.

Now if you want guys to use condoms when giving BJ's up-to-you of course, not much of a HIV issue to start with but using condoms for BJ does reduce the risks for easier to acquire STI's and since you live in an area with a increasing STI epidemic it might not be a bad idea

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV prevention for the future.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for far to acquire STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

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