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Author Topic: Living with HIV and Love, Help?  (Read 586 times)

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Offline StuckKidd

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Living with HIV and Love, Help?
« on: January 02, 2019, 11:17:06 pm »
Hey guys, So I've started talking to this guy who is really nice. I think we've recently gotten cool with each other in the last 2-3 weeks. We have hung out a couple times, cuddled and kissed.  We haven't done anything else.

When is it a good time for me to tell him about my HIV?
I am undetectable.

I'm kinda just stuck when the right time is? or is it too late?
This is the first romantic thing that I've been involved in since being diagnosed. Help?

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Re: Living with HIV and Love, Help?
« Reply #1 on: January 03, 2019, 04:34:16 am »

Congratulations on finding someone you like  :)

I'm kinda just stuck when the right time is? or is it too late?

Too late, no why?  When you are ready to do so is a good time.

Now personally for myself that would be early on before i get invested in the idea of a relationship or before I bang them ;) That way its not an issue down the line and, if they say "No thank you" its fine, not much lost and I walk away.

There are plenty of recent threads from other members on this topic that might also help you, a few examples:

How to talk and what to expect?


How can I tell a potential partner that I'm undetectable?

Fail to pick up the courage to tell her..

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Offline StuckKidd

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Re: Living with HIV and Love, Help?
« Reply #2 on: January 03, 2019, 10:38:46 pm »
Should I do it face to face or through the phone or through text?

I'm really nervous

Offline Tonny2

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Re: Living with HIV and Love, Help?
« Reply #3 on: January 03, 2019, 11:22:29 pm »

     ojo.    Hello there. I agree with Jim, and I think you have to do it face-to-face and your heart will tell you when it's the right time.. done being nervous better now than later... Good luck and please keep us posted.                  ojo

Offline DrewEm

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Re: Living with HIV and Love, Help?
« Reply #4 on: January 06, 2019, 03:53:53 am »
For what it is worth, I took my boyfriend to an appointment I had with my ID doc. There was a bit of contentious time but in the end he left with a thorough education. And, I now have a hubby on PReP who tells everyone he can.


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