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Offline Question1234

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Condom slipped during extraction
« on: December 30, 2018, 06:40:21 pm »
Hello everyone.

I bottomed earlier for a nice young man. We used a condom during all the sex we had. However after he came and went to pull out the condom slipped.

It happened very quickly, so I don't know exactly what happened but I believe that he noticed it slipping and pulled on it to get it out. I felt it being pulled out... interesting sensation. Because of this I don't think the condom got stuck inside me. I didn't notice any leaking on me or coming out of me.  The condom also had seamen in it and obviously wasn't ripped.

I don't know the guys status and it was a random bathhouse hookup.

Does it seem like this is a situation to worry about? Should I go get on pep just Incase? I should be able to get it before the 72 hour deadline.

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Re: Condom slipped during extraction
« Reply #1 on: December 30, 2018, 07:28:12 pm »
If, as you write, the condom was not leaking, so none of the semen entered you, you had protected sex and are not at risk for HIV-infection.  The condom did its job, but there was some awkwardness upon your partner's withdrawal.

Other than that, I can't advise you further, since I only can make a risk-assessment based on the information you provide.

Whether you seek PEP, just in case, is your decision in consultation with a healthcare provider who would prescribe it to you, and your own desire or need for peace of mind.

Perhaps, you should discuss this situation with your healthcare provider to get the face-to-face input you may need to move forward with your life.
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Re: Condom slipped during extraction
« Reply #2 on: January 01, 2019, 09:39:46 am »

I have another question if you don't mind answering for me.

This was my first experience with having sex with a man honestly. So I am just a little new to this. I am pretty sure that I didn't get exposed during withdrawal since I noticed him leaving, and then he pulled in the condom to get the tip out. It being my first time I didn't even notice till he said something. I think he just got soft and the cum at the end of the condom got caught on my rear end. Again I didn't notice any cum on me, or in me, and didn't notice any leaking. I would think leaking would be normal if the condom wouldn't have done it's job right!

Regardless of all that and the little risk I had nothing is going to make me feel better than getting tested. I'm reading online and see lots of places that talk about a DNA test. Some resources say it's a good diganostic tool, others don't. I'm confused by that since lots of government and ngo resources are saying that this is a good test to use.

I'm confused why some people say to do this, and LGBT ngos actively support this test and others dont. Is it due to outdated for posts and information and the test has gotten better?

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Re: Condom slipped during extraction
« Reply #3 on: January 01, 2019, 10:30:36 am »

DNA testing is not recommend for routine screening because of the relatively high costs and lesser accuracy. It is used for infants.  RNA is for viral load situations, monitoring of progression or treatment but it's for already confimed HIV infections, not screening for similar reasons.

The withdraw and sliding out of the condom was no exposure, it would be different if it had come off during intercourse and you had to fish it out.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP going forward as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other easier to transmit STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

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