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Author Topic: Hiv risk // I'M FREAKING OUT, PLEASE  (Read 785 times)

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Hiv risk // I'M FREAKING OUT, PLEASE
« on: December 25, 2018, 01:25:14 pm »
Hi! I'm a 21-year-old gay guy from Brazil and 11 days ago I had my first sexual experience with a guy I met on grindr, I don't know his HIV status. We did a lot of deep kissing (I didn't taste blood but he had brushed his teeth before the encounter). We masturbated each other but none of us really ejacultaed, but there was precum. Here's what worries me:
1- We did frottage, I held our penises in my hand and masturbated them together and rubbed his penis against mine, we are both uncircumcised. I'm afraid that some of his precum did contact the head of my penis and got into my pee hole (urethra), is this very risky? Can the urethra be reached from the outside?
2- Also, I've been researching on the internet and have found something about some cells in the foreskin that are susceptible to HIV. Since we are both uncircumcised, could HIV be passed to me through my foreskin if his precum dripped on it?
3- At some point he started rubbing his penis with precum against my anus and butt, there was no penetration though, how much risk am I at from this?
I felt like I couldn't trust him and I was going cazy from so much anxiety so 28 hours later I went to a hospital and started taking PEP (I've been taking it everyday so far), do you think it was really necessary?
He also sucked my penis without a condom but I know this is not a good way HIV can be passed. This makes me comfortable because there are many things on the internet about oral sex but not so many similar to my described experience. Can somebody answer me, please? I will be very grateful. Merry Xmas from Brazil

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Re: Hiv risk // I'M FREAKING OUT, PLEASE
« Reply #1 on: December 25, 2018, 02:01:48 pm »
Merry Christmas!

None of the activities described in your post put you at risk for HIV-infection. 

Receiving unprotected oral sex is not a risk for HIV-transmission, but could put you at risk for other STi's/STD's.

Frottage is not a risk.  The HIV is fragile and does not survive in a viable manner outside the body, regardless of precum.

You really did not need to initiate a PEP regimen as a result of the activities in your post, but do what you need to do for your peace of mind and anxiety:  I am fully confident that you will conclusively test negative for HIV-antibodies.
HIV 101 - Basics
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You can read more about Transmission and Risks here:
HIV Transmission and Risks
You can read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
You can read more about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read more about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
You can read more about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

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Re: Hiv risk // I'M FREAKING OUT, PLEASE
« Reply #2 on: January 09, 2019, 06:32:19 pm »
Hi! Thank you so much for answering me. Could you do it again?
On December 25th (11 days post exposure) I noticed I had a red and aching lump on my butt. I realized it because I sat on a chair and it hurt. 2 or 3 days later, I noticed a blood stain on my underwear, it was already dry. Days after this, I realized the lump was going away and right now I can see just a dot and since the blood stain it didn't hurt anymore.
I felt it was okay at first but now I'm so confused... I've been reading things online and I have found many sources that say this is one of the symptoms of ARS, like "Enlarged lymph nodes" I guess. If this is one of the symptoms, could this mean that my PEP regimen has failed? And right now I'm going through ARS. I also had a sore throat on December 21st (7 days post exposure) that lasted for 3 or 4 days.
Also, because of the PEP regimen, I had to see a doctor last week and she told me that it is possible to acquire HIV through rubbing and the foreskin is a risk factor. She said that the HIV in the precum could have entered through the skin because it has some cuts that we can't even see... I'm really scared right now and I'm so sorry to bother you again but it would be very nice if you could tell me something about this. Thank you. (I think I'm gonna make this another post too)

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Re: Hiv risk // I'M FREAKING OUT, PLEASE
« Reply #3 on: January 09, 2019, 06:53:14 pm »
Moderators of this forum make risk assessments based on real-world documented events.  Accordingly, I provided feedback to the concerns you mentioned in your post.

I stand by that assessment, but I do not pretend to be a healthcare professional.

I would not presume to contradict your healthcare provider about her opinion on the matter: that is not my place.  We forum moderators do not dispense medical advice.

Regardless, you are on PEP, which is highly effective.  You do not know that you are going through ARS, nor does your physician--since you have not tested positive for HIV-antibodies.

Moderators of this forum do not assess symptoms, since symptoms, if they exist at all, vary widely. Continue to work with your physician to determine why your lymph nodes may be enlarged and why you have a sore throat, and any other symptoms you may feel you exhibit (there are far more non-HIV reasons for such symptoms).

Additionally, continue with your PEP regimen, per your physician's instructions.

I fully expect that you will test "negative" for HIV-antibodies as a result of the activities you have described in your post.
HIV 101 - Basics
HIV 101
You can read more about Transmission and Risks here:
HIV Transmission and Risks
You can read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
You can read more about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read more about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
You can read more about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

 


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