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Author Topic: Been an interesting week  (Read 349 times)

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Offline kentfrat1783

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Been an interesting week
« on: December 01, 2018, 03:45:26 pm »
Hi all,

Hope everyone has been having a good week. Mine has been going well but interesting.

I finally told one of my friends and his wife about my Dx and they were cool and asked questions. Made me feel good.

Now I only have one friend left to tell but a comment he made last night took me back. A little over a month ago we were talking about health care within a group of is and he made an off the wall comment that AIDS has a cure but the pharmaceutical companies wonít let it come out. Way odd as thatís the first time he ever said it nor knows about me. Then last night we were talking about EMTís within a group of people and he stated that if you have AIDS they canít help you. I shut down after that comment but not sure if he realized why.

Initially I was getting the nerve up to tell him but after that comment it pulled me back. This could be the one friendship that ends if I tell him.

Just odd how a month can change my perception.

Thanks for listening.
Kenneth
12/05/2108 - CD4 174 (18%) VL - <20
08/28/2018 - CD4 166 (15%) VL - <20
05/08/2018 - CD4 106 (11%) VL - <20
03/05/2018 - CD4   90 (10%) VL - <20
12/11/2017 - CD4   60 (  8%) VL - The hospital forgot to run
09/07/2017 - CD4   42 (  6%) VL  54        (1.70)
05/11/2017 - CD4     2 (  1%) VL 169,969 (5.23)
OI's: PCP
Dx`d May 11, 2017
Location: USA

Offline MadDog125

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Re: Been an interesting week
« Reply #1 on: December 01, 2018, 04:53:23 pm »
Not true and very unlikely true.
EMT units in the US treat everyone as a potential blood born pathogen (hepatitus, HIV, ect.) Risk and follow protocols as called for.  They will not refuse.  Even if you have the bio hazard tattoo.

As for the pharmaceutical industry having a cure?  I very much doubt it.  The chemist responsible would be a shoe in for the Nobel prize.  Any company backing them would see their stock price soar.  Think! You cracked the Gordian knot of medical science AKA HIV.  What else is this company and their research team capable of?  I get the conspiracy idea that were more profitable treated versus cured, but companies have to think bigger picture.  Government grants alone would likely outweigh profit loss.

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Re: Been an interesting week
« Reply #2 on: December 01, 2018, 05:38:48 pm »
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Initially I was getting the nerve up to tell him but after that comment it pulled me back. This could be the one friendship that ends if I tell him

Yeah look I've had a few friends who held bizarre theories (Alternative facts  ;D ) not only on HIV but also on health matters, to name a few Cancer, Autism,Down syndrome, Diabetes ... ::) I spoke up to some of the them with the more harmful views, in some cases it's been a deal breaker for them and others I decided their truly warped view of reality was so harmful that it was best for me to walk away from the relationship myself.

Others I have been able to educate on the topics and, it changed their point of view or at least seems to have softened it.

End of the day, your choice how to proceed. You can only really control you own action or non-action, so if you do speak up to someone and choose to educate them  you can't control the reaction they might have.
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I finally told one of my friends and his wife about my Dx and they were cool and asked questions. Made me feel good.

Cool and glad to hear it went well and made you feel good.  :)

Can I ask out of interest, was there any particular reason/motivation that drove you to sharing?

Take it easy

Jim
« Last Edit: December 01, 2018, 06:09:33 pm by JimDublin »
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Offline kentfrat1783

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Re: Been an interesting week
« Reply #3 on: December 01, 2018, 06:19:44 pm »
Hi Jim,

I've been friends with them for years and I kept talking general about my Dx and they kept asking more questions.  They have been around with for other issues I've had and I've next to them for issues they have had.  It just felt good finally being honest with them.

Then again those that I call friends are more like family and my actual family I don't hold that close. 

It is just better for me being honest with those that I care about.  Not like I'll blast it on FB or Instagram but I do need a close group of friends that understand what I'm going through. 

But for the other guy that seems to be warped a bit not sure if I'll ever be honest with him. 

Kenneth
12/05/2108 - CD4 174 (18%) VL - <20
08/28/2018 - CD4 166 (15%) VL - <20
05/08/2018 - CD4 106 (11%) VL - <20
03/05/2018 - CD4   90 (10%) VL - <20
12/11/2017 - CD4   60 (  8%) VL - The hospital forgot to run
09/07/2017 - CD4   42 (  6%) VL  54        (1.70)
05/11/2017 - CD4     2 (  1%) VL 169,969 (5.23)
OI's: PCP
Dx`d May 11, 2017
Location: USA

 


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