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Offline Jim Allen

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Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« on: October 01, 2018, 08:38:52 am »
My son is non-verbal autistic with sensory issues so this has been making it very difficult and distressing for both him and ourselves to cut his hair.

Haircut time had gotten quite ... "physical" in the past as he is growing up, gaining strength and a temper to match and haircut time has left us with scrapes and some hash bruises not to mention the feeling of utter defeat.

Nothing worked including a while back we took him to a specialised hairdresser, that failed as during the process of cutting his hair the hairdresser became distraught and cried.

Anyhow past 6-8 months I've been letting my son cut my hair with the clippers when I do mine weekly, at first he would not even touch them or ran away when he saw the clippers, slowly each week he got into holding them and finally into cutting my hair even.

This week I signed to him that I would cut his hair and he sat down for it and let me cut his hair without a single struggle or cry. He even wanted to hold the clippers and do it himself  ;D

After all the years of drama & stress finally succes :D

Its small things like this that are relatively "normal" for other parents that nearly bring me to tears from a feeling of "relief" I suppose

Jim

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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #1 on: October 01, 2018, 05:52:33 pm »
I'm glad for you and your son that haircuts are no longer ordeals.

You are a great father, teacher, and guide!
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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #2 on: October 02, 2018, 03:59:05 pm »
Given I have very little hair left, I used to begrudge going to the barbers for a haircut and pay them £10 each time to just run some clippers on me, so I bought a Remington HC4250 clipper from Amazon and I love it....actually bought a spare as it's so cheap! Now I can cut my own hair as often as I like, it's smooth and quiet and so easy to use...I'm only saying this in case an option if your son is ok with clippers but reverts to freaking out in future, then it could be an option to just let him do it himself...

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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #3 on: October 02, 2018, 04:20:58 pm »
I'm glad for you and your son that haircuts are no longer ordeals.

You are a great father, teacher, and guide!

Thanks

Given I have very little hair left, I used to begrudge going to the barbers for a haircut and pay them £10 each time to just run some clippers on me, so I bought a Remington HC4250 clipper from Amazon and I love it....actually bought a spare as it's so cheap! Now I can cut my own hair as often as I like, it's smooth and quiet and so easy to use...I'm only saying this in case an option if your son is ok with clippers but reverts to freaking out in future, then it could be an option to just let him do it himself...

Anything to avoid the drama.

Same here by the way. I've been shaving my own head weekly for the past 18 years +- must have saved a fortune.
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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #4 on: October 02, 2018, 08:34:11 pm »


      ojo.    Good for both of you Jim ... I admire you. You are a great man....hugs

PS how old is your son?

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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #5 on: October 03, 2018, 08:52:44 am »
Wonderful for You and Son Jim!

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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #6 on: October 03, 2018, 11:49:05 am »

      ojo.    Good for both of you Jim ... I admire you. You are a great man....hugs

PS how old is your son?

He's turning 7 at the end of this month.  :)
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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #7 on: October 04, 2018, 08:03:55 am »
Hi Jim,

I've seen a video going around Facebook about a barber spending a good two hours with a boy that has the same condition.  I could never imagine what it is like but so appreciate those that take the extra time.

I never thought about your idea of letting him use the clippers and get used to it, but makes total sense.  Being something that isn't done often can be scary and unnerving.  Also, it is such a great father/son activity.  Just glad that you figured something to make him feel better. 

I'm sure it has put a smile on your face.
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« Reply #8 on: March 04, 2019, 03:27:13 pm »
I often claim my nonverbal autistic son can actually talk as he does talk to me just never towards or in front of others. People including schools and doctors have dismissed my claims and I understand as they never had heard him talk.

I've had been teaching my son to sing the ABC song and he does perfectly for me and out of nowhere he sudden sang the song to his mother, start to finish whilst I was dropping him off at her house. This was about 3 months ago and he smiled at both of us after doing it before walking away, her jaw nearly hit the floor!

Since than he has started to talk in front of others, including the school maybe about 60 words or so and myself & his mum are very proud of him. He has now been classed as "pre-verbal" instead of being "nonverbal"

Unfortunately I realize who he gets "Fuck off" from when I head he has been saying this in certain situations at school & to his mother, although I have to admit i am really proud he gets the tone & timing when to say it spot on!  ;D ;D ;D

Jim
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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #9 on: March 04, 2019, 05:00:02 pm »
Great news Jim!! 
Whoever thought that parents would be thrilled hearing their child tell them to "Fuck off!"   ;D

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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #10 on: March 04, 2019, 05:26:03 pm »
Great news, Jim.

Plus, he's learned a useful phrase, suitable, alas, for many occasions in today's world! :o
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Re: Haircut time, no more drama breakthrough.
« Reply #11 on: March 04, 2019, 10:33:58 pm »
Great news, Jim.

Plus, he's learned a useful phrase, suitable, alas, for many occasions in today's world! :o


Great news Jim!! 
Whoever thought that parents would be thrilled hearing their child tell them to "Fuck off!"   ;D

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lol.  ;D

its has not been an easy but saying "i'm pleased" would be an understatement of my feelings with him (finally) reaching this milestone in his development.

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