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Author Topic: Do I Need To Get Tested ?  (Read 310 times)

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Offline martywilliams

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Do I Need To Get Tested ?
« on: September 14, 2018, 10:54:10 am »
Hello,

Before I post my query I would like to that you guys are simply fabulous and thank you for all the help and please bear with me if this post is a long one.

I am a 39 year old male and I work in the IT industry.

The Act:

10 years back, around Oct-Nov 2008 I had met a female massage parlor owner and asked her if she would have sex with me for cash and she agreed and we went to a hotel room.I didnt and still dont know her background.

This is was my first attempt to have sex with anyone.

In the hotel room she wanted to wash her vagina and we mutually washed her vagina.

I then kissed her and it was a deep kiss and I then lay on top of her while she was naked and so was I and kissed her simultaneously,  she immediately asked me to wear a condom as my penis was getting hard and I wore a condom.

However I was not able to get an erection hard enough to penetrate her in any position and each time the attempt to penetrate resulted in a failure.

We then went into a 69 position when she put my penis which was not covered with a condom, briefly in her mouth and I inserted my fingers in her vagina for a few seconds and removed it, there was a cloudy and curdy secretion on my fingers which I immediately rubbed off.

Since I was not able to get a proper erection to penetrate her, she gave me handjob and my penis was not covered by a condom at that time and I ejaculated, we wore our clothes and we left.(My himalayan ego was shattered at that time)

The Query

Its been about 10 years since that incident, I never any serious health issues except cough, cold and fever and a problem of scalp psoriasis but I have had that much before this incident. I have got married since then and I have a 6 year old kid and another one is on the way as my wife is 4 months pregnant.

Off late I have developed some serious health anxiety and I am taking Paxil 12.5 mg and some vitamin pills and each time my mind goes back to this incident that took place 10 years back.I have not discussed this with any doctor or any family member yet.

Even a slightest hint of a fever or chest pain or head ache reminds me of that incident and makes me wonder if I was infected with HIV and the virus has woken up now.

As I write this post, its evening time here and I have checked my temperature and it is 37 degree Celsius and I am worried if this evening fever is Tuberculosis.

Please tell me if I need to get tested as I have checked one clinic that offers HIV testing.

Thank You for reading this.

Marty


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Re: Do I Need To Get Tested ?
« Reply #1 on: September 14, 2018, 11:05:18 am »
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10 years back, around Oct-Nov 2008 I had met a female massage parlor owner and asked her if she would have sex with me for cash and she agreed and we went to a hotel room.I didnt and still dont know her background.

This is was my first attempt to have sex with anyone.

In the hotel room she wanted to wash her vagina and we mutually washed her vagina.

I then kissed her and it was a deep kiss and I then lay on top of her while she was naked and so was I and kissed her simultaneously,  she immediately asked me to wear a condom as my penis was getting hard and I wore a condom.

However I was not able to get an erection hard enough to penetrate her in any position and each time the attempt to penetrate resulted in a failure.

We then went into a 69 position when she put my penis which was not covered with a condom, briefly in her mouth and I inserted my fingers in her vagina for a few seconds and removed it, there was a cloudy and curdy secretion on my fingers which I immediately rubbed off.

Since I was not able to get a proper erection to penetrate her, she gave me handjob and my penis was not covered by a condom at that time and I ejaculated, we wore our clothes and we left.(My himalayan ego was shattered at that time)

Not a HIV concern whatsoever, none!


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I have got married since then and I have a 6 year old kid and another one is on the way as my wife is 4 months pregnant.

Unprotected intercourse with your wife as example meets all the biological conditions needed for acquiring HIV.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, its often based on trust within a relationship, however just note this trust or faith does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk to you for acquiring HIV

Test out of standard routine at least yearly like every sexually active adult should for easier to transmit STIs and HIV. Your wife should be doing the same, and she should also be testing as part of her prenatal screening
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Re: Do I Need To Get Tested ?
« Reply #2 on: September 14, 2018, 11:16:17 am »
Thank you for your reply, I hope you assumed the worst case (i.e stress tested my query) while answering.

My wife got tested when our first child was born and she was negative and she will be tested again before our second child is born.

My query was, do I need to get tested because of this 10 year old incident and what may be the reasons for not getting tested ?

Thanks,

Marty

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Re: Do I Need To Get Tested ?
« Reply #3 on: September 14, 2018, 11:25:10 am »
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My query was, do I need to get tested because of this 10 year old incident and what may be the reasons for not getting tested ?

You had no risk from the incident 10 years ago. HIV is simply not transmitted this way and, your concern from what you posted lacked all the biological conditions needed for HIV to transmit between hosts.

Since than however you have engaged in unprotected intercourse, birth of children does not change how HIV is transmitted, and your wife's past HIV status does not mean it will remain that way.

The risk assessment is:

Couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, its often based on trust within a relationship, however just note this trust or faith does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk to you for acquiring HIV

Test out of standard routine at least yearly like every sexually active adult should for easier to transmit STIs and HIV. Your wife should be doing the same, and she should also be testing as part of her prenatal screening

Jim
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
HIV 101
Transmission and Risks:
HIV Transmission and Risks
Read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
Read about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
Read about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

 


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