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Author Topic: I think I'm starting to lose it...PLEASE help me experts!  (Read 2701 times)

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I think I'm starting to lose it...PLEASE help me experts!
« on: December 22, 2006, 04:04:07 AM »
Hi all, I just want to thank you for all the hard work you're doing. Here are my questions that are driving me on the brink of insanity:

1.) I recently had an episode of mutual masturbation w/ another man. I masturbated him for a while and I'm pretty sure there was precum, and then I proceeded to masturbate myself with the same hand right after. Now, I didn't have any cuts/sores, BUT I am uncircumsized, and I read somewhere that the foreskin has cells or something that make it easier to get HIV. If I had gotten some the guy's precum on my hand and then masturbated myself and the precum came into contact w/ my foreskin, am I at risk? I had lymph node swelling a couple weeks after the incident, but I was traveling w/ my friend and he had the same thing at the same time so I'm thinking that it could have been a bug going around, but I don't know.

2.) A couple weeks after that, I performed oral sex on another man and we had protected sex. Everything was fine until after the incident, when I looked in the mirror and saw that I had a bit of gingivitis because I noticed the gums between my lower-front teeth were red (the backside of the teeth). I then also remembered that I had poked my lower lip pretty hard with a plastic fork about 8 hours earlier, and while I didn't see or taste any blood when it happened, I can't be too sure, and it did hurt for a bit but then I forgot about it. However, I know for a fact that when I brushed my teeth that morning, I did not bleed, nor was I bleeding when I was performing oral sex, and he did not ejaculate in my mouth. What's my risk if there had been precum in my mouth though, given the gingivitis and possible fork prick on the lip?

I get tested yearly and I'm always as careful as possble, but as you may notice, I'm a bit paranoid when it comes to HIV. Any advice you can give me will do me a great deal. Thank you so so much!


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Re: I think I'm starting to lose it...PLEASE help me experts!
« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2006, 07:10:02 AM »

Mutual masturbation, no matter what sort of spin you want to put on it, is not a risk for hiv infection.

As for giving blowjobs, this is not an efficient means of transmission and it would be highly unlikely that you'd become infected from the situation you describe. Not only does saliva contain over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it incapable of infecting cells, but also the correct type of cell hiv needs to infect are not found in any great quantity.

There have been long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one. This shows us two things. One, condoms are very effective for the prevention of hiv transmission. Two, oral sex is much lower risk than previously believed. We now have the evidence that oral sex is a very low risk activity where hiv transmission is concerned.

I see no need for testing over the specific situations you bring to us. Make sure you always use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse and keep up those regular, routine sexual health care checks and you'll be fine.

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