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Author Topic: Exposure June 29 - Have I infected my partner? They show symptoms i do not  (Read 800 times)

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Offline Jtyolo1

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Hi there guys,

This is a weird question but i hope you'll be patient with me...I know it may be irrational to those who have lived this and are more in the know than I but here goes...

On June 29 i met a crossdresser who performed oral sex on me and i was the top in protected anal sex.  I ejaculated inside the condom (so i know you are already rolling your eyes probably...)

However, June 30 i had unprotected anal sex and ejaculated inside my partner, i know, only on the knowledge that oral sex poses a zero risk without blood...however ive since read documents that contradict this, hence my concern, added with:

My partner, seven days after our anal sex session, has fallen ill.  Seriously swollen glands in head, back of neck, top of head, and groin.  As well as constant headaches and slight fever..  These symptoms concern me so much. 

I guess im asking, is how likely are her symptoms likely to be related to hiv infection by me?  Seeing as i have no symptoms whatsoever?

thanks in advance,

concerned

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Firstly, please don't attempt to start duplicate accounts.

Your June 30th activity (active unprotected anal sex with a partner of unknown HIV-status) puts you at potential risk of HIV-infection, though at a smaller risk than if you had received unprotected anal sex (with a partner of unknown HIV-status).

Moderators of this forum do not address symptoms, since symptoms of acute HIV-infection, if they occur at all, vary widely.

If your partner is now ill, your partner should see a healthcare provider for proper evaluation. 

However, your partner did not contract the HIV from you, if your only concern is your incident of receiving unprotected oral sex June 29, since receiving unprotected oral sex is not a risk for HIV-infection (but could expose you to other STD's/STI's).

As to your potential risk, you should test for HIV-antibodies six weeks after the event, then at 13 weeks past for confirmation of the six weeks results.
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Offline Jtyolo1

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Hi there Ptrk3,

I apologise, i did not see the "need to be accepted" message before, i made a secodn account, saw the message, then remembered thats wat must have happened to my last account - hope this clears that up.

I am not worried about potential HIV risk of June 30, i know my partner's status and am confident she has slept with only me since last test.

I am aware this is the majority of peoples stance on this, however i have read accounts of men that say it has happened that way?  two official cases scientifically recorded anyway...is there room for error in those findings?

it is possible then, that her symptoms are due to another STI/STD...

thank you

Offline Jtyolo1

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Infected my partner
« Reply #3 on: July 13, 2018, 10:50:46 am »
My partner has tested positive for HIV, and i believe her when she says i am the only person who could have given her it.

I am yet to test, however my possible exposures are only two acts of unprotected insertive oral, one instance of protected anal....

I am lost for words and feel so guilty...

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I'm sorry for your anxiety, but you really need to stop posting about this issue in multiple topic areas.  So far, you have posted in the Spanish-written forum and in two different English-written forums.  You have also tried to set up a duplicate account.

Stop it.  Stop it now.  The moderators can figure out your movements.

I don't know how this forum can help you further, since your story doesn't make sense, unless your partner was infected prior to your encounter.

Firstly, your partner needs to test conclusively positive for HIV-antibodies.

Test for HIV-antibodies six weeks after the encounter, then at 13 weeks past the encounter for confirmation of the six-week results.

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The only risk you had (posted here so far) was the unprotected intercourse with your partner. You did not infect your partner from the incident with the crossdresser as that incident was not a concern.

I don't know what other risks you had in life but in short your partner should get confirmation testing done and start treatment if needed. You should test at 6 weeks and 3 months post your last unprotected intercourse with your partner and use condoms for the time-being for any intercourse between you and consider PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Now this is not a debate or a discussion, its a risk assessment.

Like it or not that is up to you of course however your only risk was sleeping with your partner and if they have HIV than they had a viable exposure at some-stage other than you if you are negative.

Jim
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