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Scared to death. Please help
« on: December 01, 2017, 09:20:53 pm »
I had my first sexual encounter on April with an unknown girl. I was drunk and I don't know how protected the condom was. I got cough and sore throat after 4 weeks. And the swelling in my tonsils remain the same, but no pain. And I have 2 swollen lymph nodes under jaw. Its been 7 months. At 6 month mark, I got a deep cervical lymph node on my right neck. I have kind of white tongue. I have all classic symptoms of hiv. I am so scared. I don't know what to do. I asked her if she is positive, but she positive, but she said she is not. I can't trust her. She is a big liar. Plus she had rashes all over her body. I am scared. I know only test can give the accurate result. But I am scared to take it

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Re: Scared to death. Please help
« Reply #1 on: December 01, 2017, 09:38:26 pm »
Hi

Her status is not your concern and I am living with HIV, i don't have rashes and people can not see that I am HIV positive just by looking at me. This is 2017 not 1987 people living with HIV live long normal lives

If you had intercourse and the condom covered the head of your penis during the intercourse it was not a concern, HIV can not transmit through an intact condom and when/if they break they are designed to shred leaving no doubt.

If you had intercourse without a condom, than simply go test.
For the next time keep in mind asking about her status is pointless. Even if she tested negative today all it would mean is she was negative some 3 months ago due to the time it takes for tests to conclusively. Just use a condoms going forward  its not who you do it with that is a risk, its how you do it.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

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Re: Scared to death. Please help
« Reply #2 on: December 01, 2017, 09:44:46 pm »
Thank you for the reply. My head on the penis was covered but not the base. I didnt know how to use since it was my first time. And all my symptoms point towards hiv. I am scared and it is not easy for me.

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« Reply #3 on: December 01, 2017, 09:55:47 pm »
Well than it is simple, you did not have a HIV risk from the incident.

Your symptoms are not HIV specific and considering you had no HIV risk to begin with whatever is making you sick is not HIV related, see a doctor and treat it.

As long as the head of your penis remained covered HIV was not a concern.  Move on with your life, continue to use condoms and as a sexually active adult test out of routine at least yearly for easier to transmit STI's & HIV.

Jim

As a note, here is what you need to know about condoms going forward

Latex or polyurethane are effective barriers against HIV, HIV simply can not transmit through the intact barrier. 

To reduce risks of breakage during intercourse, do make sure that whatever the type of condom being used, you only use approved condoms. In other words check for certification mark (FDA, CE, ISO or Kitemark). This means it complies with safety standards. Check the expiry date and make sure the condom is still in date.

Also to note when using condoms use lubricant, if used than use condom safe water-based lubricants makes condoms more comfortable and reduces the risk of breakage. – but avoid oil-based lubricants  as they can weaken or break condoms.

As for putting condom on correctly, as incorrectly done it increases the risk of breakage.  Place one on top of the erect penis and pinch the teat at the end of the condom before you start to roll it down the penis. By doing this you’ll squeeze out any air bubbles and ensure there is room for the semen (cum). Roll the condom down to the base of the penis. 

If it's on correctly it will roll downwards easily. If you've started putting it on the wrong way or you’re not sure then take it off and try again. Even if you have not ejaculated (cum) there can still be semen on your penis (pre-cum), so it’s important to try again with a new condom. (This due to pregnancy and against other easier to transmit STI's)

Jim


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Re: Scared to death. Please help
« Reply #4 on: December 01, 2017, 11:59:31 pm »
Thank you for the reply. I am still scared because of my symptoms. I have never had anything like this before. It is freaking me out. Has anyone else got these symptoms?

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Re: Scared to death. Please help
« Reply #5 on: December 02, 2017, 03:45:26 am »
Well than it is simple, you did not have a HIV risk from the incident.

Your symptoms are not HIV specific and considering you had no HIV risk to begin with whatever is making you sick is not HIV related, see a doctor and treat it.

As long as the head of your penis remained covered HIV was not a concern.  Move on with your life, continue to use condoms and as a sexually active adult test out of routine at least yearly for easier to transmit STI's & HIV.

Jim
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Re: Scared to death. Please help
« Reply #6 on: June 18, 2019, 09:29:59 am »
My incident was in april 2017. I have tested negetive after 12 months. But after a year and half I started noticing dandruff on sides of my nose and on moustache and beard. It was during winter and I didn't care about it. Then I searched for hiv related dandruff and seborrheic dermatitis came up and got me very very scared. Ever since then dandruff keeps flaring up. Its getting worse under the chin. I have never had it before. I have read in many sites that seborrheic dermatitis is a clinical mark for hiv. I have painless swollen tonsils for over 2 years now. What else could be the reason for seborrheic dermatitis and swollen lymph nodes? 2 are certainly related hiv. Please help

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Re: Scared to death. Please help
« Reply #7 on: June 18, 2019, 11:14:57 am »
It's not HIV specific besides, stop googling biased irrelevant questions. You have conclusively tested negative post this encounter so unless you have been engaging in ongoing risks, HIV is not an issue.

Best, Jim


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Re: Scared to death. Please help
« Reply #8 on: June 18, 2019, 11:36:48 am »
Thank you for the reply. Swollen lymph nodes and seborrheic dermatitis both are related to hiv and I have both. Can hiv go undetected?

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Re: Scared to death. Please help
« Reply #9 on: June 18, 2019, 11:51:07 am »
It can also be about 50 other things, most of them more common. Work with your doctor instead of googling rubbish.

For the final time you do not have HIV from your no risk encounter and, conclusively have tested negative over the no risk incident 2 years ago!

Don't ask again or post again unless it's about a new incident
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« Reply #10 on: June 25, 2019, 12:24:22 pm »
1 last question. Persistent swollen lymph nodes is a sign of infection. I am healthy and my cbc and urinalysis is normal. So there is some hidden infection. Other sign of infection is seborrheic dermatitis. I have personally never seen anyone having dandruff on moustache and beard. Just me. That's so scary. What if my result after 1 year was false? I am scared to get tested again.

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Re: Scared to death. Please help
« Reply #11 on: June 25, 2019, 02:04:14 pm »
Look your left testicle could drop off, it has nothing to do with HIV from your concerned encounter because;

A) It was a No HIV risk encounter
B) Although no testing was required you tested negative.

Unless you have had other real risks since then, its not HIV. So see your GP and, treat whatever is making you sick instead of focusing on something it's not.

Out of kindness if you post about or anything related to the no HIV risk situation again it's going to lead to a ban from the forum for 30 days, this is not to be mean but to encourage you to seek face to face support as in a therapist to help you cope with your thoughts.
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« Reply #12 on: August 14, 2019, 11:53:56 am »
Hi Jim, I am sorry for coming back but I am extremely stressed. I am seeing new symptoms everyday. I want to believe that I am negative but my body is refusing to make me believe. I started getting alopecia areata on my moustache last week. Alopecia areata occurs due to weak immune system. I am healthy and I have never had any of these skin problems before. I have seborrheic dermatitis on my face, moustache, beard, chest and I don't know where else I have. I stopped exploring. Dandruff is not visible if I keep moustache and beard. But now I am having alopecia on my moustache and I started losing hair. I am really stressed. Don't know what to do. Logically speaking swollen lymph nodes, seborrheic dermatitis, alopecia areata, bone pain, dry mucus all are hiv related. I have them all. There is no other disease that cause all these symptoms. I read an article by a Harvard Dr saying that if you have seborrheic dermatitis on multiple areas you should automatically get tested for hiv.

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« Reply #13 on: August 14, 2019, 12:02:26 pm »
I'm sorry you are feeling unwell, you tested HIV negative already in addition what you posted was not a risk to start with. So as said before unless you have had other real risks since then, its not HIV. See your GP and, treat whatever is making you sick instead of focusing on something it's not.

I hope you feel better soon but allowing you to continue here is not helping you move on with your life, so as warned and out of kindness I'm giving you a temporary ban from the forum
 
Look your left testicle could drop off, it has nothing to do with HIV from your concerned encounter because;

A) It was a No HIV risk encounter
B) Although no testing was required you tested negative.

Unless you have had other real risks since then, its not HIV. So see your GP and, treat whatever is making you sick instead of focusing on something it's not.

Out of kindness if you post about or anything related to the no HIV risk situation again it's going to lead to a ban from the forum for 30 days, this is not to be mean but to encourage you to seek face to face support as in a therapist to help you cope with your thoughts.
« Last Edit: August 14, 2019, 12:06:48 pm by Jim Allen »
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