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Offline mjm1j2

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Recent possible exposure
« on: November 07, 2017, 05:32:01 am »
On October 30th I had insertive anal sex with a condom with a guy a few years younger than myself (I'm 28) the condom broke and I didn't realize for probably a minute or so not sure exactly when. I asked him if he was clean before and he said yes and then I expressed to him I was worried and he assured me he was clean. Well we agreed to both get tested and ease eachothers worries. I was tested and hiv-(I sent him a picture), and he told me his test went well and that he would send me a picture soon. Well it has now been over 6 days and he won't respond to any of my messages. Not sure what that means, but he's still on Grindr where I met him so it must not be bad news; must have scared him with my anxiety lol. Anyways, re-wind back to me getting tested, the doctor recommend pep so I began it, tivcay and truvada both once a day and I am on my 9th or 10th day now. I'm very tired, and slightly nauseous having a overall sick feeling. I even explained this to him and still no response. I guess my main question is how at risk would you consider me, I wasn't sure if pep was even needed or not but I did not know the guy. How soon after pep can I be tested with some conclusiveness even if I have to spend money.

 I have a situation with my boyfriend where he doesn't know I did this(or kinda knows but doesn't want to know but allows it, it's confusing, he told me once I could sleep around), but we never or rarely have sex and we mostly have oral sex. I'm testing myself for everything else again this week besides hiv. I'm going to avoid having any anal with him until after 3 months when I'm cleared 100%. How safe is oral at this time? I won't chance anything with him. And could I do the rna or duo tests shortly after finishing pep?

I know I'm all over the place. I appreciate any help.

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Re: Recent possible exposure
« Reply #1 on: November 07, 2017, 05:58:35 am »

I am living with HIV that does not make me dirty. I wash plenty and I am very clean.

As for testing with him after the risk and sending pictures to each other, absolutely pointless. All it means if he did send you a photo (even if it was his test result) that he was negative some 3 months ago, no good to you at all so stop bothering the guy, no wonder he stopped replying to you.

The condom broke, you had a risk and started PEP. Finish the PEP course and test at 6 weeks and again to confirm at 13 weeks after finishing PEP. All in all with what you posted here I expect the result to be negative but do test to confirm that.

Use condoms with your BF for intercourse to protect yourself from HIV and STI's and as for oral giving a BJ is a near negligible HIV risk to you and if you are receiving a BJ it is not any HIV risk to you at all.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

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Offline mjm1j2

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Am I at risk?
« Reply #2 on: February 07, 2019, 02:38:40 pm »
I just had a hookup where I was the top for insertive anal sex with a man.  He mentioned he was tested a month ago and is on prep. I have a partner so I am curious if I should get tested or consider PEP for this situation before we resume sexual activities. During our short sexual encounter, probably 3-5 minutes, I pulled out once and then I noticed the condom had moved up a little and the top no longer had a tip it was flat on my penis head, which surprised me because I pinched the tip and followed all regular procedure, maybe it was too large of a condom. Anyways, it was intact, as I go to push in I hear a pop and look and itís broken. I do not believe i inserted at all and if I did it was minimal, but It popped somehow so maybe I inserted very slightly. Afterwords I jerked off and finished as we had no other condom. Am I at risk?

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Re: Am I at risk?
« Reply #3 on: February 07, 2019, 03:16:37 pm »
From your post, it seems unlikely that you engaged in unprotected sex (other than the vague period in which you seem unsure as to whether you had penetrated, but I can't really help you determine that fact).

Additionally, the "insertive" partner is at much less risk (but, of course, transmission can occur).

Whether you seek PEP is your decision, in consultation with a healthcare provider who would need to prescribe a PEP regimen.
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Re: Recent possible exposure
« Reply #4 on: February 07, 2019, 03:47:50 pm »
Thanks for the reply. I simply have high anxiety. I also wanted to apologize if my original post was offensive; I probably didnít think while typing it. 🖤


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