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Offline worried_man

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Will I be perceived as a liar?
« on: December 10, 2006, 04:48:39 PM »
I am an UNCIRCUMCISED male. I am ashamed to admit that my wife is half-way into her pregnancy and in this period I have spent time with other women. My exposures (with 3 different girls) are:

Episode 1 (Aug 2006): I fingered girl 1 and had some sticky vaginal fluid on my fingers, After about 5-6 minutes, I had an urge to pee and in the process touched the urethra and foreskin of my penis. Unfortunately, I had not washed my hands after fingering her. The fluid appeared to have dried a little by then but not completely.

Episode 2 (Sep 2006): I deep kissed girl 2. Didn't see any blood or anything in her mouth.

Episode 3 (Dec 2006): Girl 3 gave me an unprotected blowjob in my car for about 5 minutes. It was dark and I couldn't see if she was bleeding in her mouth.

I was relieved until yesterday about the fact that my wife is safe (she tested HIV negative as part of her pregnancy check-up) as I did not have any sexual contact with her after she became pregnant. However, last night while I was asleep, she gave me a blowjob (Unprotected obviously). I stopped her when I realised after about 2-3 minutes and I had not ejaculated. I tried to feel the tip of my penis to see if there was precum but couldn't feel anything. Not sure if my wife had  accidentally ingested it.

Now I am extremely scared and worried that I may have infected her (if I am infected). Here are my questions:

1. Among the three episodes, which one is the most risky? Based on all the reading that I have done, it appears to be No.3. Am I correct?

2. This episode (No. 3) happened the day before yesterday (30 hours before my wife gave me a blowjob). Is 30 hours enough time for me to transmit HIV to my wife if I got infected by Episode 3? 

3. What should I do?  Do I need to be tested? Is my wife and unborn child at risk now?

4. Also, since I have seen that the medical community refuses to aknowledge transmission via unconventional routes, will I be perceived as a liar if the worst is to come true?

Thanks for your time and consideration.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Will I be perceived as a liar?
« Reply #1 on: December 10, 2006, 04:52:32 PM »
None of them were risky, nor a concern for being infected. HIV is not an issue here, but giving her an oral std is.

Offline Coffeechick88

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Re: Will I be perceived as a liar?
« Reply #2 on: December 11, 2006, 08:42:06 AM »
You are not at risk for HIV in any of these situations, assuming you are not lying about how far you've gone with women other than your wife.  There is no need to worry about being perceived as a liar, since if you did get tested, you would be found negative.  If you have to play the game 'what if I got something' then the route that would be more likely would be other stds such as herpes, for example.  I think in your case, much of your worry comes from guilt.  YOu need to level with your wife and be honest with her about what you've been doing.
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